Virtually unlimited both in volume and variety. Chances are if your child has not already seen porn, trust me, he or she will. Your 12 years old may be seeing more naked people having sex in five minutes than their grandparents did over their entire lifestyle. Tonight we explore topic that no one wants to talk about and meet people who are choosing to break the silence. Men who stumbles upon porn as Young Children and got addicted. I was exposed at 7 or 8. A porn star tells us what goes on behind the scenes. The truth is we are not orgasming. The couple showing us what real sex looks like. This is a conversation that we all need to have. A no hold bar talk about sex and pornography and what our kids should know about the difference. Woods of rural pennsylvania to try to unplug, i meet a group of people who had a problem they cant talk to anyone about. Welcome. We are happy that all of you were able to be here and just thank you for having the courage to do this. These five men are porn addicts. A tiny sample of some say a major epidemic. They are meeting together facetoface for the first time. I am taking a backseat to observe. The first thing i would love to do is get to know a little bit about all of you. I am 26, i am married and i have a four month old daughter. Where i grew up, pornography is not apart of the culture. I feel like i am a writer and performer. I identify a gay male and i really want to make this a visible issue for gay people as well. I am a musician, i play the bass, guitar and electric bass and i am actually a senior in high school. The range of ages and background in the room are proofs that porn addiction could happen to anyone. I have been trying to quit for nine years. Even if i am in a relationship, i cant stop unless i am getting help. This has been affecting my life tremendously everyday for the straight six years. When i was at my worse, i would watch pornography and masturbate four or five times a day. I would tell my friends, dude, how is that possible . I appreciate you being so honest. It is so challenging to actually not be exposed to porn today. You can be paying your bills online and get deviated to pornography. The person whos leading the workshop is 29 years old alex. He made his mission to help people overcome people coming over their porn addiction. Alex struggles twothirds of his life. When was your first exposure of porn . Around 11. It was inadverted. I was on the computer all the time and i got exposed to a pop up ad. I was like oh, naked woman and thats interesting so i went online and started looking at underwear photos, nothing really pornographic and escalated after that and led to hard core stuff eventually. What do you think it did to you to be so young to be exposed to porn . I used to have butterflies in my stomach just thinking about talking to a girl that i liked at that age and there is just this wonderful sense of ah and all of a sudden you are seeing photographs of women naked and it just completely destroys the intrigue and electricity of that schoolboy crush feeling. Did your parents have any idea . They had no idea what i was doing. I was very good at alluding my parents and making sure they are completely unaware of this. Throughout adolescence and high school, alex continues to battle his secret addiction. Though he attempted to have Real Relationships and sexual intimacy. His porn use got in the way. Porn just took away all the mystery of women to the point where i just was not really that interested in them anymore. In order to maintain arousal, i had to fantasize about porn and ignore the person in front of me. At your worse, how often were you watching porn . At least 10 times a day or if not 14 sometimes. I was going at it to the point where i was injuring myself. Chafing on my genitals and i could not stop it for a day to allow it to heal. It cant be healthy. I feel powerless to stop. I wanted to stop but i couldnt or felt like i couldnt. Alex began looking for answers online and found articles that inspired him to try something radical. Go cold turkey for one week. No porn, no masturbation and no orgasm. Oh my god, my life so quickly was getting better. He read the idea on reddit of the high level of interest led him to create his own website calls no fap. That provides support for people that are trying to quit porn. What does no fap means . Thats the sound of masturbation makes. Oh. I dont want to get too graphic. It is the reference to the sound. This is an antimasturbation website. Porn addiction is not a medically recognized disease. Hundreds are turning to the site of no fap. It impacts christians and atheists, muslims, democrats and republicans. If you are a human being, and you have access to the internet, you can get addicted to porn. Though alex is emphatic that this could happen to anyone. He tells me 95 of no fap users are men. Males between the ages of 8 and 14. Alex runs his website from home offering people a tool kit of information, pure support and forums to help them stop using porn. His work is mostly online. Recently he tried something new in person retreat to offer no fap members the opportunity to unplug and connect with each others. These days facts and figures are pointing around 11 as average exposure, i am wondering at what age did all of you encounter pornography . I think it was around 8 i first found pornography, it was dialup so you had to wait. I had been struggling with this since i was 11 years old. I remember vividly seeing the image on my computer and having this first orgasm with technology. I was exposed when i was probably 7 or 8. And then i would say i started using regularly when i was 10. I first saw pornography when i was around 9 years old. I actually did have a cell phone or a computer. I had a nintendo ds and they came out of a new model where you can access the internet and by the time i turned 11 years old, i was watching pornography on a regular bases. By the time i was 13, i was fully addicted topograph pograo. Many others in the no fap community were addicted to porn at a young age. Porn is a big issue for my wife. I have gone through a lot of guilt around it. Porn causes me to not be able to perform sexually and sometimes thinking about having sex with my wife causes a lot of mental distress. I want to have real sex but i also dont want to because i am afraid in the real act of sex. It is a dark place for me. We are in the first generation of humans who has ever grown up and went through puberty while using pornography online and unlimited amounts. Internet porn is available for free anywhere and anytime just a click or a tap away. It is on instagram and facebook and twitter. No fap has been around for seven years, the site have over half a million users showing how big a problem porn addiction is. What do you think that is doing to our culture . Kids are learning about sex through porn, theyre getting the porn producer to deal with sex and not the natural Life Experiences that they should ultimately grow up and have. It is impacting relationships and how men see women and women see men. We are talking about a massive epidemic here. It is a large epidemic that many do not want to talk about. Sport drumming starts [ referee whistle sounds ] [ cheering ] when you need the fuel to be your nephews number one fan. Holiday inn express. Were there. So you can be too. Sleep number 360 smart bed. You can adjust your comfort on both sides your sleep number setting. Can it help keep us asleep . Absolutely, it intelligently senses your movements and automatically adjusts to keep you both effortlessly comfortable. 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It is just basic wear a condom and this is how pregnancy works and thats about the extent of it. The thing that would have helped me the most is if early in Sex Education that we would inform porn being an addiction. Those two words are not put together. If you had a classroom full of kids and you said this can cause erectile dysfunction or this can cause this or that. Thats all it would take. For years shawn kept his porn use a secret and throwing himself in music and academics instead of girls. Sophomore year he discovered online he was not alone in his struggle. There were many others feeling the same effects. I think a lot of kids do have a problem with pornography end up becoming extremely terrified of women. Did you find that happening to yourself . Yeah. To this day i never had a girlfriend. I feel like i am trying to discover what a real relationship should be like. Can you think of any examples in your life on how you look at women and how you look at men potentially differently because of your compulsive porn use . I love women. I love how girls talk. I love those aspects. I feel like they are being eliminated in porn. People say all men are just pigs and thats all they think about is sex. But the truth is thats not who we want to be. I think that porn has caused me to objectify women. I think some of it is cultural but some of it has to do with pornography and what it has done to my brain. I dont want to think about them that way. It bothers me quite a bit. This guy have been hooked on a fantasy that can only be found on a screen. A world of instant gratification and women who look like this. Meet tasha. Shes young and blond and beautiful. She loves sex and she wants you. Tasha is this fantasy character that i play in my movies that represent sex and fun and over the last eight years, 29 years old have made adult films for her fans who numbers in the hundreds of thousands. But tasha does not think of herself as a porn star, shes an adult entertainer in a multi Million Dollars business that capitalizes fantasies. How did you get into this job . Growing up i was drawn to playboy when i was in high school. I love being nude. I love modelling and i am like thats the job for me. So when i moved up to los angeles to attend college i made it my goal to get myself into playboy production. After tasha rubbed elbow with hughes hefner, she was hired. She was just 21 when she made her first video. I remember my first shoot, i was like oh my gosh. This is definitely not modest, are people go g to freak out when they see this. I come from a conservative neighborhood and my family and friends reaction to what i was doing was extreme. It was hard to handle. I loved that it was something that i could control. I immediately bought my website. That i was a businesswoman right away. With all the backlash i was like no. This is what i want to do. Today tasha owns and creates contents for her website. I enjoy entertaining people with my sexuality and it is nice to monetize it. There is a lot of misconceptions and stereotype about the adult industry. I think it is the media responsibility or the journalist responsibility to normalize the adult industry and people would realize that adult performers are normal people that have a unique job. Not everyone in the adult industry cares how the world perceives porn. Tasha is launching a second career to set the record straight. Shes getting a master degree in journalism. Adult film stars, sex workers, representation in media or the lack thereafter, our role as journalists and as people in the media is to dismantle stick ha and stereo types. Tasha sees porn as a legitimate business made exclusively for the entertainment of adults. With porn being pirated, she knows that young people are finding it. Many would never have been taught anything about sex. What do you think the dangerous are of young people watching porn before they had any kind of Sex Education . If i was a teenager and i knew nothing about sex and i watched an adult film, i probably would think oh my gosh, thats what sex should look like but in reality it is not real. Kids have not learned about sex and they go and watch porn. Thats not thats not the perspective. Or what people are supposed to look like. That is just not the intent of porn. Porn is for adults. It is the parents job to educate kids about sex. It is not porns responsibility to take care of that. At the same time i think that whats most dangerous about young people consuming adult content is the consent factor. They have not been properly taught how to ask for permission and how to communicate with their partner. On set, we speak to our partner of what we like and what we dont like. We negotiate sex before we have sex. That part is not shown on the film. I knew what i was going to do to get their attention. You dont see actress talk about consent. A lot of porn, the character all seen on board. They appears to want to have sex. But there is more extreme content out there where it can seem like someone is forced to do something they dont want to do. That could be really confusing and even disturbing for r young developing minds. I do feel the need to be more local about consent because i know the young people are consuming content. In this environment where we have a Supreme Court justice that has been accused of a sexual assault. We have to be addressing this topic. It is more serious than ever before, the me too movement, all we are talking about, we dont have a solution. Find a solution. 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When you are having sex on camera, how much of it is acting and how much of it is actual pleasure . Thats a great question. I have had plenty of days where i had to act mostly. No matter what you have to perform because you are acting in a film. The truth is in most films were not orgasming. We cant do it on command. Tasha wants to remind the world that porn is fiction, a fantasy played by actors. I am a performer and the art that i do is performance art. It is an entertainment business just like any other. To her porn is not a how to guide the sex. It is simply not real. But this woman 58 years old cindy gallup feels compel to provide something thats real. A desire born at a firsthand experience. I date men in the 20s. I know they will impress me in bed. I became encountering sexual behaviors in bed, wow, where is that coming from . Its been awhile since i had sex with men in their 20s so tell me about it. Tell me what you started to notice. You know the porn moves and the porn expressions. I recognize all these things. I experience what happens to hard core porn online. When those two things converge, porn becomes Sex Education by default and thats a good wa ao wat a good way. Cindys answer was make love and not porn. A website where members can rent and submit videos of real world sex. Real people in loving relationships having true intimacy. We are not porn. We captures those in the real world as it happens spontaneously. And all it is funny and messy and beautiful comic everybody is beautiful when theyre having real sex and they really are. Today the platform has over 500,000 members and more than 2500 videos to choose from. On the site users can pay 5 to watch a video and half of the money goes to the people who make it. Every single submission is vetted by human eyes to make sure it is authentic. I sit down with beth of one of the make love and not porn curators. You watch a lot of sex and love making. Yes. How is it not porn . Porn starts like with penetration and ends with orgasm. We are looking for a wider story. You want to see the flirting and the negotiations or do you want to try this or lets do this. And the cuddles afterwards. Show me some stuff that you approved. I love this. This is one of the videos we were talking about, right . [ laughter ] you can kind of get a feel how they relate together. Thats what