We are from different parts of the world but we fight for the same thing. It feels like this club keeps growing and growing. Yes. It is a lifetime membership. Thats just unimaginable. The dues are way too costly. You have to go through it to understand it. This is a club that is uniquely american. And one that you never want to join. How many have to die . One is enough for me. At what point do you realize it is a knock away from your door and this could be your story. This is sandy and lonnie phillips. A few years ago, they sole everything they owned and bought an rv. It is really pretty out here. It would be a lot of fun on a motorcycle. You might think theyre retirees traveling the country but theyre not. Theyve chosen another line of work. One that keeps them very busy. A mass shooting with casualties. Another shooting. Nine people died. 11 people were killed. 17 People Killed. 26 People Killed today. 50 people are dead. Sandy and lonnie respond to Mass Shootings, offering support to grieving families and survivors. Hello hey, sandy and lonnie, how are you doing . As well as can be expected. This is very personal. We see that pain every single day. We see it in our own eyes and we see it in the eyes of everybody that we meet and work with. It is a pain that sandy and lonnie know all too well. This is a live picture now outside the Movie Theater in aurora, colorado. There have been reports of multiple deaths. I still remember turning on the tv and seeing the news. I was in a state of shock thinking about these innocent people just watching movie and a massacre. A massacre. Sandy and lonnies 24yearold daughter jesse was one of the 12 victims. She had recently left home in texas on pursue a career as a Sports Reporter in colorado. And the game goes to the spurs. We were happy to see her growing and flourishing. But jessys promising future was obliterated in a single moment. How did you find out what happened . My phone rang and it came up with her friend. And i thought why is he calling me . Theyre at the movie. I took call. I could hear screaming in the background. And he said there is been a shooting. I was shocked awake by this gutteral bellowing scream. I thought somebody was attacking her in the house. I had never heard her scream like. That i ran to the living room and she was sliding down the wall screaming, jessie is dead. 12 people dead. 38 injured. One of those who was killed, jessica, 24 years old. Going through that visual, seeing my daughter trying to hide behind those seats, hearing those gunshots. Ill never get it out of my mind. I remember thinking, okay, this wasnt a nightmare. This is my reality. Why am i alive and shes not . Why couldnt it have been me . I just wanted to die. Just as they were trying to come to terms with their heart breaking loss, another tragedy rocked the country. Five months after aurora, were watching the news and there was a shooting in an Elementary School in newtown, connecticut. And i just lost it. This evening michelle and i will do what i know every parent in america will do. Which is hug our children a little tighter. But there are families in connecticut who cannot do that tonight and they need all of us right now. Adding insult to injury, grieving parents who lost their children were then hit with another outrage. Some people dared to question whether the shooting happened at all. There is a Conspiracy Theory that the sandy hook shooting was a hoax. The grieving parents are crisis actors. Hoaxsters and conspiracy theorists. It was something lonnie and sandy had also experienced. After the aurora shooting, folks on the internet said no one really died. One man harassed their son leaving threatening emails. You never saw your sisters dead body. When somebody says your daughter wasnt killed there. That was all phony. This is not okay. Were will 50ized again and again and again. We are blind sided. We had to improvise. Call the fbi. What do we do about this guy . Sandy and lonnie had dealt with the need and conspiracy theorists and now they were able to share that knowledge from sandy hook. I knew instinctively, we can help them. You knew you had to go there . Yeah. I remember seeing their faces when i walked in. I said thats what we looked like five months ago. When they said it will happen to you and it happened the same way. That was a turning point for sandy and lonnie. It was the trial of their daughters murder would give them a new sense of purpose. Jurors heard story after story from the victims families. I dont know who i am anymore. Because i was a mom and now im not a mom. Hearing the testimony of survivors and seeing the devastation that they were living with every day really spoke to both of us. Weve said how many of russ there out in this country . And how can we connect with them . Returning a guilty verdict. At the end of the trial, we just decided, this is what i want to do. I want to be able to hold a hand and help people through this initial grief and find the solutions that can help them move forward. The couple sold their home so they could hit the road full time. In the at seven years, theyve responded to 15 Mass Shootings. There is been newtown, there is been santa barbara, there is been parkland. San bernardino. Santa fe. Las vegas. We can name almost all the big ones. And a survivor from every one of them. Whats the first thing that you say i know you didnt want to get out of bet this morning. I know youre in shock. And then we start going through finding out how your child was killed. The coroner, dealing with all of that. Then the hoaxsters, the people that will raise funds for that you youll never see. Then dealing with the legal aspect, do we have a trial coming up . We mention, push as gently as we can how important trauma therapy is. You say, if and when youre ready, were here for you. Today the couple is headed back to the scene of a tragedy. A shooting in a pop hard Country Music bar one year ago. Out of Thousand Oaks, 12 people were killed during College Night at the border line bar and grill. Simply enjoying the night out. Much of the country missed the border line shooting. It came on the heels of the pittsburgh synagogue massacre. And day after border line, massive wildfires raged across california, pushing the shooting even further from the headlines. But the Thousand Oaks community was in crisis. Families and survivors left grieving. Now its the oneYear Anniversary. One of the hardest milestones. And a couple who lost a son is in need. How is susan doing in. Sandy and lonnie are headed to the family home. What are you doing this evening . They need us and we know they need us right now. Were here for the long haul. 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There are days we do not want to get out of bed. There are days when all i can think of is my son laying on the floor at the border line bleeding out and dying. For much of his life, tell lived in service to others. He was an eagle scout, he was in the navy. We loved him with all of our hearts. He was a good boy. A good man. Over the past two years, mark and susan have endured more than any parent could imagine. Before border line, tell lived through one of the deadly he is Mass Shootings in u. S. History. An active shooter the las vegas sniper attack. At least 58 people now dead. More than 500 wounded. Lightning cant strike twice like this. But of course, we were wrong. Lightning can strike twice. No matter who you are, where you live. Thousand oaks, one of the quote unquote safest cities in the United States. Two miles from home. Thats where our son got killed. It can happen to anybody anywhere at any time. I keep saying there is no handbook. You have forewarned us about everything that would happen. The trolls, the press, everything. We want to forewarn you. And sure enough, everything they said was true. What have they meant to you throughout all this . They helped us find our voices. Just to articulate, this is what it is like. They always remind us that were not alone. Sometimes you feel absolutely helpless. You feel like youre doing this all by yourself. It takes a long time to go, okay, this is my new life. And this is my new role in this life. But im always going to be jessies mom. Everything i do, i do for her to honor her and her memory and her legacy. Just like everything you will do will be for tell. Because of tell. They took him. Tell was not lost. That boy never got lost. He always knew how to come home no matter what. He didnt pass. They took him. You just said they took him. Yes. What do you mean by they took him . It was one shooter. To me the shooter provided the motive. The gun and ammunition manufacturers provided the means. Our government, our senate, our president , our house, our state legislators, they provided the opportunity. So to me, they took tell. I am a bit of an emotional wreck right now. I was just with two families who lived through one of my worst nightmares. While theyre both devastated, theyre also really angry because they believe if the same kinds of regulations were applied to guns as are applied to things like driving or getting prescription drugs, their kids might be alive today. In a mass shooting, we hear most about those who are killed. But there is another group of victims. The ones who survived who have to when i have the knowledge that others did not. How do you make sense of that . How do you keep going . Dylan is one of those survivors. He was also one of tells best friends. Tell was my right hand guy. One of the best men ive ever known. I miss him every day. Its almost incomprehensible but border line was not the first mass shooting dylan survived. Like tell, he was also in vegas. The two had gone to celebrate dylans birthday. It was a big country concert. It was pretty rad. What did it feel like to be 21 in vegas . There is no holding me back now. Because like you see the lights when you drive up. The city and the signs and stuff and youre like, oh, yeah. Well have some fun. But on the last night of the concert a horrific shooting on the las vegas strip. Police say he opened prior to the 32nd floor of the mandalay bay hotel. The shooter fired more than 1,000 rounds of ammunition. People were running and dropping. You hear nothing but screaming. It was like a horror movie that you cant get out of. In the chaos, dylan helped others before escaping himself. But 58 people were killed. I was a mess. I was more wrapped in my head than i was being grateful. It was a dark place. Dylan says it was tell who helped him heal. I could talk to him, i could cry with him. He was the reason that i could see the light in the dim, dark place. In the months of a the shooting, the border line bar became a haven for dylan, tell, and other survivors. The place was fun with tell. No matter what was going on in why are life, it was an escape for everybody. It was like a family. With the oneYear Anniversary of vegas behind them, dylan and tell were beginning to rebuild their lives. But then in early november, minutes after this photo was taken, tragedy struck again. Theyre shooting at a bar in Thousand Oaks, california. At what point did you realize you were in the middle of another mass shooting . By like the third shot. Pretty much that quick. Like just pretty much throw my hands up in the air and just like, here we go again. When did you find out who had been killed . The next morning. It was the longest morning of my life. When you heard tells name . That was the worst feeling ever. How could he have made it out of one and not make it out of this . I lost my best friend. 12 people were killed that night. Eight of them were dylans close friends. So tell obviously, justin, noel, shawn, jacob blake, mark and christina. Pretty damn good people. Every single one of them. In the wake of las vegas, dylan shut down. In the aftermath of border line, he found himself reaching out to other survivors. Sometimes i try to just get out a quick men saying there are others. I want people to know that there is someone who understands and is willing to talk. Dylan is channeling his grief into action. Today it will be hard to ignore his own pain. Its the oneYear Anniversary of the shooting and the entire town is gathering to honor those who were killed. May we continue to be Thousand Oaks strong. For 175 years, new york life has been helping people act on their love. So they can look back and say, we did good. I had this hundred thousand dollar student debt. 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Its pretty moving to see how many people in this community have come out to remember those who were killed. We meet in this beautiful garden to honor precious lives taken from us one year ago. We are not moving on. We are moving forward. One step at a time. You have to go through it to really understand it. Border line affected me here. Ill never stop thinking about it. I never want to. You might think it will never happen to you its something you only see on the news its like youre wearing a weight around your ankle. And that weight will always be there. A small town with big heights on the border line of heaven standing here among hundreds of people all trying to heal from the will same tragedy and not knowing if they can, literally makes my heart ache. Memories will get us through this is our home [ applause ] there was a moment i felt dylans arm around my shoulder. And i just kept thinking to myself, dylan is comforting me. And i started to feel almost enraged because hes this 23yearold young man and his life has been changed forever because of this. And all of these people here, the community will never be the same. But from all the grief and the ashes of loss, something remarkable is growing here. A network of survivors and families coming together to lift each other up. Hi how is it going . Ive heard so much about you. Youve joined a club that you cant resign from. Now were all in this together. What you give to the next survivor matters. Thank you for doing our work others here in Thousand Oaks. Everyone has to do their part in some way. Yes. But youre young and youre still healing. Youre doing the work already. Proud to know you. You take the effort to go meet that person and go and hold their hand. That person will take the effort to hold the next hand. Pretty soon you have a real healing machine. This is how we connect. One by one by one. 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