Resist temptations. This girl is hyperventilating. Finally these kids play without supervision. Its no fun being by yourself. For the next hour we offer some better ways to help your kids grow up. Every child in there is being watched by an adult. I understand why we want to keep them safe. But whats going on over there in chicago . These kids parents decided their kids should be allowed to do more on their own. So the kids go to this playground by themselves. Parents should let kids do this. They look out for each other. Are you okay . Without parents bossing them around they quickly organize their own lives. Its so fun just being by yourself and being trusted by your friends. But what if something happens . How quickly danger can strike. A child being stalked by a predator. We hear about cruel playground bullying. Accidents, kids getting lost and above all adults preying on kids. 750,000 registered sex offenders and they could be living next door to you. 24 7 you can turn on tv and see a kid being kidnapped, murdered. This is a mom who is fed up with the way that tv scares parents. We are at a 50year low in crime. And people are so concerned that that cant possibly be they dont believe it. They dont. Or they say of course theres less crime because were holding them so tight. But there is less crime against grown women and men and pets, cars. You know theres just less crime. You must accept it but nobody does. She pushes the idea of freerange kids. Like freerange chickens . We realize is this a life . Its just not fair. They couldnt even move their wings. Freerange parents is a rejection of the idea that your kids cant do anything on their own. This group of chicago kids called themselves the freerange kids club. Its a good break from your parents to be with your friends and chill out and not have to worry about how much yogurt you eat. If kids dont try they cant learn social skills. They cant learn team skills or working together skills when they are always supervised. That was the impetus to start the club. These parents let their kids roam. The first outing we had five or six kids and by the end it was like 12 or 14. They were a pack of kids roaming the neighborhood. Were they scared to go out on their own . The only thing i was scared of is i would be embarrassed if someone would ask where my parents were. The fact that they were by themselves upset a Security Guard at the library. She would follows. If we went up stairs we went up stairs. It was bizarre that there were children in the library checking out books. At first the kids just had fun. But now they say by doing this, they gain something. You get trust from your parents. Yeah. These kids take pride in running adultlike errands. My parents will be like were running late can you pick up the dry cleaning . Its freerange for our children. Let them play freely. This Family Therapy persist is appalled. Drink the koolaid. Why do we have to rush kids into being miniadults. Because they learn. And many want to. Oh, they you know what i want to smoke and drive your car. Oh, freerange. Okay, you want to do that, go. Do whatever you want. There are still reallife pedophiles out there. How about the eightyearold boy who said can i walk home from camp. The parents think its a safe area. He can ask for help and he asked somebody for help a lovely man. What did that man do . He chopped him up. You cite the extreme incidents. Of course. Crime is down. I do cite the extreme incidents. But do you want to gamble with your child . I wouldnt want to gamble with my child. Would you let a nineyearold take the subway alone . Lenore let her son ride the subway. With bullies and worse. Why at nine years old . Bad stuff does happen. If i thought he was in a dangerous situation i wouldnt have done it. It was his idea. It was not us who said were going to put you on the subway and make a man out of you. It was mom and dad, can i please take the subway home from some place. Take the j train two blocks up and one over. This tv show was quick to portray her choices reckless. The construction site where he was recovered is where he was killed. That can happen. But seven years later, lenores son is still alive. He is 16 and proud that his mom let him grow. Were you scared . Not at all. I had done it before with my parents. It was fun. I know how to get around. Im confident in myself. But you freerange parents better watch out. A mother from florida faces five years in prison for letting her sevenyearold son walk to the park alone. I didnt think i was doing anything wrong. And this woman was arrested because she let her kids right in front of her house. A neighbor had told the police the kids were unsupervised. But their mom was watching. If you had looked, you would have seen me. I was visible. Simon arthur brought his son to a car show. But he didnt want to say. I was bored and hot and wanted to walk home. We walked to the Shopping Mall before there are police stations the whole way. I said, all right, walk home. I wouldnt scared. I read about the abductions. You can be hit by lightning or struck by a meter too. I wasnt near a car and the cop asked where are my parents . The child lived a mile from this location. Its a great distance for a sevenyearold to travel without water or any nourishment around with him. We charged mr. Arthur with reckless conduct. They put me in the back of the police car. This raises the question, whos child is it . The parents or the states we want kids protected from abuse but dont parents get to decide if their own kids are mature enough to walk home on their own . To think that a child, let alone parents sometimes make really good judgments when they are in a situation that they cannot predict . Thats how they learn good judgments. If a child is not at the age where they can supervise another they should not be supervising themselves. You can get money from parents by making them nervous. This Company Sells tracking devices. If they go outside the boundary you will receive a text alert. Reporter the device is locked on to your child. Making it hard for the kids or strangers to take the band off. You can get tooth prints which is an impression you give your child and they bite into it and then you have a dental impression of your child that you can keep for when they find the body and it is mangled beyond recognition. The perception of the risk is messed up. If you are concerned about risk dont put your kid in a car. Driving is more dangerous, so are swimming pools. The risk is greater if you do not raise your children to be independent and make decisions on their own. The freerange kids climb trees. A lot of parents think im crazy. She might break her arm. She might. But on their own kids learn to it makes you stronger in a way that is very valuable. I feel. If the parent is there saying that branch cant support your foot its not as valuable as the experience of putting the foot on the branch, feeling it, im not sure, and pulling her foot back. What if the kid hurts themselves, they know not to do that the next time. Even if you are a freerange parent you still care just as much about your children. Amy graft writes the mommy files for the San Francisco chronicle. Parents fear that the children not going to make good choices. When you children freedom they make better choices. What about the risk . The risk is so low. I used to be kind of afraid. Then i realized theres not much to be really scared of. Some kids have none of these experiences or even basic responsibility. This mom will not let her tenyearold hold a knife. I cut up all his meat for him. I dont need it cut. Im not going to choke on it. Its too huge. The boy finally used a knife because he was a guest on lenores tv show. Oh, my god, what is he doing . There is an assumption that any time a child is unsupervised they are in danger. She can make pancakes better than i can. I let her run loose in the kitchen. Pariss friends envy her experience. What do they say . That sounds so fun. And the freerange kids say they are more confident doing it. You can never get lost if you know where everything is. And all of them said i like being a freerange kid. I like being a freerange adult. Coming up, the tiger moms and the most important thing your kids need to succeed. If dear predictable, theres no other way to say this. Its over. Ive found a permanent escape from monotony. 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Its not that funny. It must have struck a chord. When they see people whipping their kid around they go thats what i do. Children benefit from roughhousing. You are physically bonding with your child. And i can see them benefit from this. When you tell them to be scared and dont roughhouse and stand back and dont touch, you create an environment of fear. I dont find this funny. Some experts were quick to call gavin a bad parent. Shaken bean syndrome happens exactly like this. Gavin put his hands around the babys neck. Just because something can arguably lead to something serious doesnt mean we have to avoid it. Living that kind of life where you say achoid this and avoid that, you are teaching a child to be scared of the universe. A kid broke his leg in a tree, people demanded the trees be cut down. What is wrong with a broken leg . Its six weeks. My heart swells with pride that my kid has a cast on. We are kids we want to protect them. Thats true of babies. When they are Little People you have to teach them about the real world. If you dont, reality will. But now we protect older kids from disappointment by giving every child a trophy. Proud of him. When i was a kid, trophies had meaning. You got one if you were good at something. But these days kids get trophies for participating. In my Kids Soccer League everybody got a trophy. Im sorry. And they seemed happy. Ashley argues that giving everyone a prize is bad for kids. Its good to praise kids. The research has found the opposite. When kids are told theyre wonderful, they are worried that the next time they try something theyll screw up. 40 years ago the trendy idea was self esteem. California started a self esteem task force. The first agenda make sure everyone on the committee feels good about themselves. The Self Esteem Movement was influential. Parents were told, avoid competition. Competitions bad. But now the research is. In boosting self esteem may be counterproductive. It does not improve academic performance. Kids with low self esteem who get overinflated praise are more reticent to try things in the future. They avoid challenges. She says thats why trophies for all is a bad idea. Ive heard of trophies who got so upset about getting participation trophies they dumped them in the trash can. Because they knew that participation trophies were they were insulted. He knows that was pity and its embarrassing to him. What about the self esteem of the kid that is not as good. That hurts. Youre not as handsome as brad pitt or as intelligent as that dude who can two pi to 3,000 decimal places. Accept that and move on. Parents tell me, well my kid went to practice every week. They didnt go to practice every week. You drove them. Right . Of course makers of trophies want kids to get more trophies. There is a trophy Industrial Complex and then i found out its a 3 billion dollar a year trophy. The trophy Industrial Complex. And thats what it is. They have lobbyist like the awards and Recognition Association that say things like we have to encourage parents to buy trophies every time the kid reads a book. Then the trophy doesnt mean anything. We dont know what it means to the child. She has a trophy she got when she was a kid. What does this mean to you . It meant i showed up and i finished something and accomplished something and it said i was funny, john. Strike three, youre out of there. Sounds like this movie where Billy Crystal cant believe the way his grandkids are being protected. Time. Its okay. This is my dad and hes new here. There are no outs in this game. No outs. How do you know who is winning . We dont keep score. Every game ends in a tie. Many kids sports leagues ban keeping score. The kids keep score secretly anyway. Its not a secret. By four or five they know who is the best reader in the class, who is the best athlete, who is the best drawing. They know about differences in ability and its confusing when we pretend there arent any. Billy crystal tells his grandson to color between the lines. Whats the point of having lines if youre just going thats beautiful. Thats absolutely beautiful. Picasso. Exactly. I dont see why kids must color in the lines but what does calling him picasso do to kids . Studies show that American Kids have high self esteem. They rank number one in self esteem by 27th in performance. American kids think theyre doing so well but they are doing badly. Acknowledge what they did do well. What about the kid that is bad, the one who gave it a good shot and wasnt good and they know it. You dont give them a trophy. A ribbon. Maybe the person who deserves the ribbon the least needs it the most. Were talking about kids. You know . Theres Nothing Better for a kid than to learn how to lose. Thats what childhood is all about. Making mistakes, learning to lose, learning to fail and then i hope succeed. I hope succeed. Next parents who push gender today were gonna hi. Be comparing the rollformed steel bed of the Chevy Silverado to the aluminum bed of this competitors truck. Awesome. Lets see how the aluminum bed of this truck held up. Wooooow holy moly. Thats a good size puncture. You hear aluminum now youre gonna go ew. Lets check out the silverado steel bed. Wow. You have a couple of dents. Id expect more dents. Make a strong decision. Find your tag and get 15 below msrp on select 2017 silverado 1500 crew cabs in stock. Find new roads at your local chevy dealer. Michael looks like a boys boy but his mom says he loves to draw. He loves music. Michael eagle mom and their friends make an effort to parent their kids in a gender neutral way. Among my friends i dont think that anyone would say theyre not gender neutral. We offer dolls along with the trucks and balls. We asked the boys. Do you like dolls . Stuffed animals. Some families give their kids gender neutral names so their kids can make up their own mind. Their babys name is storm. There is gender free, transgender, more . We have gender fluid, creative, independent. Education professor Elizabeth Meyers teaches teachers dont treat kids like boys or girls. He asks us am i a boy or a girl and i ask do you feel more like a boy or a girl. And he says i feel like a boy. So were going to call you a boy . How is this working out . He said this playground is for everybody, boys can play, girls can play, transgender kids and boys who dont feel like a boys or girls can play. He sounds like hes living propaganda. Its a great mistake that others are making is the notion that in order to ensure equal opportunity we have to put our heads in the sand and pretend that gender doesnt matter. She asked her son do you feel more like a boy or girl . She says this is how gender should be established. The unintended message is that the grown ups are on another planet. They have no idea what actually matters to us. The result is gender confused kids. Isnt this confusing for the kids . Absolutely not. They know who they are. Assuming, she says they are not manipulated by our sexist society. Media messages, movies. He likes her. What our parents taught us. We internalize these norms and think its how it should be. Its not something that is biological. It is biological. Most boys like the more active violent sports. There are average tendencies. But that doesnt mean most. Arent most boys different from most girls . I would disagree. I once believed that but then i had kids. My wife did