But in giving us some idea who wore those shoes was she a child. Was he a boy could perhaps one of those children being the one to discover a cure for aids a cure for cancer. And as I walk out of that museum. 6 6 and overlook the hills of Judea. Jerusalem. I'm reminded that there is no walking to Jerusalem without 1st walking over those cobblestones of the ghettos of Auschwitz behind both of tripling. I just pray to God that we never forget. That we never ever forget. My friends if Israel's enemies have their way. And the state of Israel would be a blue liberated and pushed into the sea and the story. We dare not let that happen not under our watch. 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For our series entitled Love and Romance this is a great teaching Pastor Gary does on the biblical foundations of not only marriage and love but also what it means to be a single Christian and what God expects from us as a single Christians in the areas of love romance dating and what to look for in a partner for life now remember if you want to copy of this message this series in youth pastor Gary's books or just for general information about faith Fellowship Church in San Leandro you can always go to our website or Paul is here at our church office we'll have all that information for you at the end of the show remember we have some great events coming up here at Faith fellowship for the month of February and clean a grad feed and a Black History Month celebration so make sure you don't miss out for now though the Pastor Gary in the teaching of the Word of God. What a year to the people who stood here and couldn't keep their eyes and their hands off of each other now they can't stand each other what happens. Later on it just falls apart because even though it dies slow real love dies slow it can die and just keeping. Feelings are important but if you if you keep treating a person this way listen me if you keep treating him or her this way like they're an important if you keep treating them with disrespect if you keep making them feel their own wanted or they're less then if you keep insulting them and you keep picking on them over time just watch what happens watch what happens those feelings that you had when you stood here will begin to dissipate because love can die even though real love will die slowly it can die and if you keep treating people like that it's going to cause an end to this now there are a few of you not many and I'm not going to ask you to raise your hand because I don't want to know right now but there are few of you who didn't marry your Rachel you married your Leah you know the story of Jacob Jacob fell in love with Rachel but the dad tricked him and put it in on his wedding night because he was so drunk he couldn't tell the difference until he woke up in the morning and he didn't love her the way he loved Rachel and I don't know what the mystery of love is all about I don't know what makes you love one person and not another in a romantic way it's just the way it is and you may not have married your rate to you may have married a Lisa because I've had people tell me 20 years after they got married I knew when I married them I should marry them that's a tough spot to be in. Now I don't know if you're lying in. But you said that to mean I should married them I knew that and so if you married your Leah you are still married till death do us part you hold the past till the play's over and the only way you're going to make it through this is if you choose to have a Biblical love for that person a Biblical love that can develop feelings of romantic love Biblical love is Choices choices you choose to make and let's be honest there are enough challenges in marriage there's enough pain in marriage to make marriage difficult even when you love somebody if you think getting married is going to make you happy and fulfill your life well it can it might but you're in for a rude awakening because you're going to have to die to yourself you're going to have to take that one right on the chin brother you're going to have to do this by choice because you're a believer in the Bible is our outline so singles you must choose wisely you must choose wisely when you're going to get married work on you 1st and listen now go to premarital counseling if you think you met somebody go to premarital counseling before you've gone too far because the last thing you want to do is not tell anybody that you like this person you're going out with them you're kissin and huggin intelligent and maybe even Yep chip in a done met either. And then you come to our office and say tell me if he's the right one. Well you already sold the farm to him. And now you want to ask me if he's the right one so when you meet somebody and you think there could be some potential bring them in before this goes too far and let's find out because there is a lot of wolves in sheep's clothing and everybody looks good on a date dating is meant to conceal not to reveal to any they will smell nice look nice brushed their teeth gargle with mouthwash open the door for you pull out your chair or tell you you look beautiful and you don't and all that kind of a it singles don't choose someone because your clock is ticking. Getting older. But if another bus doesn't come by to it wrong reason. Let the clock tick. Get the worship cd and keep playing way no new way don't get married to someone just because you're lonely lonely and this is a zone it'll pass don't get married just because it seems like everyone else is so happy. You don't live in their house. Churches meant to conceal to you no. So don't get married for these reasons wait on the Lord find someone when you think you've found someone bring them in let us do background checks on a limb. I want fingerprint financial reports I want to thank ye I want to call his last 3 girlfriends and see why. If he's such a good catch how come they let him go to it. Because listen there's only one thing worse than wanting to be married and that's wanting not to be married it's worse so how do we maintain and grow love how do we do that how do we maintain our love and how do we grow love and listen to me this is the bottom line it comes down to choices like I told the people Friday night in a marriage there's just the 2 of you it's you and her you and him in a just the 2 of you could get it together we've got a good marriage we don't have to worry about a group of people or all kinds of outside other people it's just you and her and you and him and so if the 2 of you can make choices to treat each other 2 lovingly we can turn this thing around you can't keep doing what you've been doing expect a different result that is called What insanity. We've got to make choices the 2 of you choices to be gracious to one another choice is to be kind to each other choices to be loving choices to be supportive and sacrificial and yes even sexy choosing to be pleasant and choosing to be prayerful all of those things are choices that you make as an act of Your Will you marry God's daughter server How does God want you to treat her he tells you it is worth this is my daughter you take or it your wife you love her you take care of my daughter you make her feel special young lady that's my son you take care of him you minister to his needs you make him think he's all that and a bag of chips. They're God's children are we going to choose to obey God's word are we not marriages that fail failed to obey God's word and I believe I'm speaking to believe years today most of you look like you're believers if you're not you can fix that problem problem today also but choosing to obey God's word and follow God's word so let's just real quickly you guys know this what is choosing to be loving Ok you have romantic feelings of love you love them but you're not being loving towards them so love is patient patient. Gets fast that's not love you might say you love them but that's not acting love love his car and how do you treat them love doesn't India doesn't boast it doesn't keep records of wrongs you can't keep bringing up what he did 4 years ago on vacation he can't do that. Let It Go Forgive let it go. Love is not easily angered love is not self-seeking these are choices that you make according to the Word of God Now listen every married person deserves the right to be appreciated every married person deserves the right to be spoken kindly to every married person deserves the right to be complimented to be sacrificed for to made to feel special every married person deserves a physical touch and intimacy in their relationship every Mary person deserves that when you marry them you signed up to meet those needs those are needs that not even God will meet for them those are dependent upon you the spouse God said I've given you a husband to take care of you and to treat you that way to speak kindly to you to tell you that you're beautiful I've given you a wife to be there and tell you that you can do this and support you and to help you in your life's journey God says I'm giving that person to you to do that so how are you making your spouse feel what speaks of love to your spouse what makes them smile what brightens up their day what do they lie. What are they like and it's not just Ok I did it once. This is consistency for the rest of your life it's like the guy that. His wife came up to him she says We've been married for 20 years and you never tell me you love me any more he said hey I told you on our wedding day if anything changes all let you know. This is not a one such time to heal. There has to be consistency in this if you don't have the book by Gary Chapman The 5 Love Languages I deal with this in my office all the time give the book The 5 Love Languages The 5 Love Languages trying to speak your spouse's love language are number one quality time is that their love language number 2 buying them gifts is that their love language number 3 words of affirmation is that their love language number 4 is physical touch affection is that their love language number 5 is doing chores for them deeds for them is that their love language and you have to figure out the daughter or the son that God gave you and stick to it think to them their love language what is their love language because if your wife likes chocolates and you bring her home flowers you didn't do it for her Honey look I spent $92.00 on flowers for you. And she slaps you wouldn't like on a video. Because you did it for you so you felt better about you instead of ministering to her knees by getting her the chocolates What is her love language what is his love language. Everybody look this way I'm going to talk about physical needs in marriage just a minute. Sex. Isn't just for the men and all the women said. They lined up at the door guys and paid me to say that. Sex isn't just for men. Women want to be sexy too women are human beings and they have needs just like men do and the Bible talks about it when you get married server when you get married ma'am your body is no longer your own it belongs to your spouse and when they want to enjoy that physical intimacy with you you have to say Ok my body is your body your body is my body in fact the only time it says not to do that is when you both mutually agree so that you can spend time alone with the Lord fasting and praying and then he says come back together again otherwise Satan himself will come and tempt you. And so you've got to meet each other's needs now ladies yes in most cases not all 15 percent of the time 15 percent of the time married women have a higher libido than a man does but 85 percent of the time a man has a higher libido than a woman does and ladies I know it times you think that's all he thinks about. And you're probably right. Probably right. But don't make him feel bad because he thinks about being with you all the time as his wife the Bible itself tells us that a husband is to be captivated by the beauty of his wife that it's her breasts that are supposed to satisfy him all the days of his a life that you are the one that brings him that pleasure and it should be that way so don't say you're just a god that can't get Maverick. Because ladies let me tell you a worse day than being a sex object it's when you stop being his sex object that's a worse day the minute he stops complimenting you and chasing you and want to be with you your worlds in bad place so let your husband enjoy you men get a grip and be godly but that's marriage that's part of marriage and we have to meet each other's needs if you treat sex as not a big deal you are being foolish and disobedient it is a big deal. It's something that the 2 of you are supposed to enjoy the Bible says a wise woman does what. Builds your house ladies you have a power over us that God gave you and you can make. A happy home that's almost say you can make a happy home. Now learning to talk nice to each other learning to talk nice to each other stop raising your voices stop being so serious about everything you've heard me say before that once the laughter goes out of the house you're in trouble when she stops laughing at your jokes it's a bad season about to come on you ladies find that humor in your man again laugh in your house talk to each other nice it's the way sometimes that people talk to each other that erodes the marriage everything is so serious and so matter of fact and so pointing of the finger what happened to the love in the laughter in the jovial attitude that you used to have have how do you talk to your spouse or ma'am how do you talk to your husband what does it sound like you know what I thought about why don't we talk to each other as though somebody is standing at the front door. Because you know you can be an argument and when that doorbell rings what happened. Ha. Haven. T. Hey sure dear. Why don't we talk to people like people who are at the front door. Change the way you're doing that you know what the Bible says to you husbands and I'm one b. 30 years coming up here this is what it says husband do not be harsh with your wife now you you can't you can't mince that word you can't make it say anything other than what it says Do not be harsh Here's what guys like to say Do not be harsh with your wife unless your matter. Unles