remember. and one day, she said, she got a nasty letter from the florida department of education. >> the state was going to pull my teaching certificate, because he hadn't paid my student loans. >> he paid the bills in the early days of their marriage, she said. >> so, i started looking at the accounts, thinking, what's going on here? i don't understand. >> what was going on, cara said, was they were broke. >> i felt really betrayed and lied to and hurt. >> so, she said, she laid down the law. took over the financial stuff. and told j.j. he had to get help for his gambling addiction. >> but you know, a gambling addiction, it's probably as hard or harder to kick than smoking or drinking or -- >> it's very hard. but i loved him. i made vows. i made a commitment. so, as long as he was willing to go to gamblers anonymous, then i was willing to support him. and we went to marriage counseling. that helped. >> cara told detectives that