scary. but exciting. >> let me push you on that. is it really scary? as you write in your book, you struggled with your own gender identity. when you were growing up, long before these pioneering kids today. is it as frightening as you say it is? >> remind generation or for me i don't even think in terms of gender. i did think in terms of gender, but i did not know there was a possibility of playing with that. the only thing i knew is when i watched gone with the wind. i thought clark gable was awfully cute. i did not want to be vivian. that a museum -- immediately stamped the almost sexual -- now we seem to be able to ask both those questions. >> when you are coming up, the big thing that came up as a