- time to grieve? - no. - 'cause you take the grief and you just buried it. and you replaced it with anger, you replaced it with rage. - [richard] do you know that he's feeling this shame? - i mean, not at the time. - how do you deal with that? - no, i wouldn't have ever identified that before now. (dog yelps) i think he was very careful about not sharing or burdening me, he would probably say, with his combat experience and the things that happened. i found a picture the other day of a knife and it's inscribed. so i asked him like, "what is this?" "oh, well, i was gonna give that to my interpreter." okay. oh, okay, well why didn't you? "oh, well, he was killed." i had no idea, right? no idea that that had even happened. how can i help him if i don't know?