I live that song. Paul mccartney is in that. A little kanye there this morning. My weekend could not have been more polarized. I went to a kanye concert on id and saturday i was in iowa for a 98yearold birthday party. We went to a casino. Ppy birthday doyle. For a birthday you went to a casino. What is his favorite game there . He was slots that was his favorite. We played blackjack all day. That story would be more interesting if the 98yearold also went to the kanye concert with you. I know then it would have en really good. Doyl next time. Its good, people always ask you moving on whether you want the good news or bad news first. Didnt somebody ask you that this morning . Katie our producer asked me on friday. I always say the same thing i always take the same one. I always pick the bad news. Get it out of the way. All right. Research says, you should not pickhe bad news first. Thats right when you have a choice between good news or bad news always start with the good because hearing bad news triggers an internal stress response, so when you do that you tend to tune out other information. If you choose the good news first, it can put negative items into perspective and letspl distraction. I think if you take the good news first all you are think something where is the hammer coming in with the bad news . Kim says the bad news always turns out to be worse than she thought. The good news is usually not that great. People think the good news is going to negate what the bad news was and it doesnt. No it does not. College students graduating 56 workplace. What do you think that is . You can guess it. Free starbucks coffee. No. Free wifi . No. Social media if there was no access to social media within the company they would turn down the job. What do you mean like they couldnt use their own social media . Correct. A lot of corporations have a block on facebook and twitter so through their wifi you cannot access those sites. I didnt know kohls as a parttime job when im there i have to turn off the wifi or i cant even use my phone. Its blocked. People in this new generation will not take a job if they cant access their Facebook Page or instagram . Absolutely. 60 of them. You got it. Lame. Or pretty much use their data. Speaking of jobs this is hilarious. There is an article i read, i feel like youre going to appreciate some of these. These are just goofy fun. The reasons you are having trouble finding a job. Is it still millennials . One is you mentioned your previous job interfered with your drinking. Dont say that. Probably not going to get hired. Your resumes n resume lists asst manager of but if you got that as manager you would take them. Im liking 85yearold man with the sense of a humor of a 5th grader. Its so true. I love how it is gender specific. All right. Instead of shaking hands you ask them to pull your finger. Go to, i know you hate networking event thats what you should do put your hand out. I was at my High School Reunion you know how i hate mingling and small talk. I have anxiety about events like that. What is funny i was like determined not to have small talk so i just get right to something, rig to something serious like as soon as i meet them i am like i didnt l you in high school. Something like that. I have witnessed this before it is very awkrd yes. Last one about reasons youre not getting that job. All of your answers you whisper into the interviewers ear using a sock puppet. I knew you would. Youre an easy audience thank you. [laughter] this is usually how we talk on fridays when we have no filter left. According to a study, this is better on tests if they have one of these . Uh, duh a cheat sheet. [laughter] duh. Is there any other answer . Its a cold. What . If they are sick if t they he a cold. What i was wondering is it medication related you know. I also wondered if because you are sick and you know youre not on your game if you tend to focus more. Interesting. A is an sat or act they put it off because of that. Speaking of that we were talking about when we were in high school it was like oh, were taking the act tomorrow, wed be be out partying and be like we have the act tomorrow. Now a days kids have tutors they study, they cram. You know why . Because there is so much pressure from their parents. Sorry did i stay . That . Soundoff. Is that a criticism of me . [laughter] its just todays day and age. Its true. Still ahead on todays show was your mom always right . It seems like moms have a knack for knowing stuff. One woman will join us to talk about how she is helping others by sharing her mothers words of wisdom. And ways Small Business owners can learn about this years president ial election. What can they learn how to be gavecunning, rude and mistakes we make behind the wheel. Heres a question do you know who has the right away when a pedestrian is crossing the street. Is that a trick question . I hope not. Seems pretty obvious. Im hoping. First, unless there is a loophole. Heres a look at our arts cameras plus picture of the day. Youre going to like this one. Viewer giovanni sent this adorable photo. Oh. Thats her 3yearold granddaughter. She loves the outdoors and was getting a lit taste of coca cola on a beautiful summer day. I rember my kids were like oh, this is like confetti or a party or something. In your mouth . Yes. Her grandmother says she is looking forward to halloween treats thanks so much for share that go. Send us your own photo entry for our picture of the day contest. Email it to pictures themorningblend. Com along with information that we can share with our viewers. 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But obsessive compulsive disorder is a Real Mental Health problem. More than 2 Million People struggle with it and one in symptoms before they were 14yearsold. Today were going to talk about the symptoms, how it is treated and a new program that uses an app on a smart phone to help relieve the stress and anxiety of ocd. Thats right dr. Brad reiman is the clinical director of the ocd center at rogers memorial hospital. He is an expert on the assessment and treatment on children, teens and adults thanks for being here doctor. Something that is not necessarily a mental disorder. Ocd is a mental disorder what is it . Obsessions an compulsions, unwanted, urges, that generate high levels of anxiety. A common example might be the fear of becoming dirty or contaminated. People think of howie man dell with the hand washing thing. Did something or did something correctly. Did i lock the door, did i turn off the stove. Compulsions are some sort of repetitive act. Something that someone does that can be observed a hand wash or cleaning or physically checking to make sure a door is checked. Turns lights on and off. I have heard that. Or something that can be done silently in ones own mind. It might be a silent prayer, counting in ones own mind. Disorder they do this to the point where it starts to interfere with their life. Thats what i was going to say. Think about counting things or having a specific number i do, but i wouldnt consider myself having ocd. Some people describe it as a great exaggeration of the norm. It has to interfere with someones life occupationally, academically. Its or a character trait. Its a reflection of a mental disorder. I know the good news is were talking about good news, bad news its a very treatable condition. I think because it is obsessive compulsive disorder week it is important to make sure that people have that hope that it can be treated very often successfully. Yeah and thats what ocd Awareness Week is all about. Its trying to increase Public Awareness about the condition, but also its effective when is treated properly it can be treated. How does treatment work . What kinds of things can someone look forward to if they feel like ocd interferes with their life . There are medications that have been found to be helpful. But the treatment of choice is a type of therapy knowns exposure and response prevention. Or erp. In a graduated fashion reintroduces people into their feared situations or the things they avoid and as a result they begin to get their life back there is a sense of empowerment to that. Not necessarily controlled, but it gives people hope. Just medicating i think sometimes is a problem it seems were more likely to do that in todays society. Its wonderful to think we can learn skills or a new way of thinking. Lets talk about if someone thinks or know someone they think might have ocd how do people get answers or find out more . Im glad you asked. Locally next week we have an ask the experts talk going on next at Waukesha CountyTechnical College so myself and two colleagues from rogers will be there to really discuss ocd and its treatment, but more importantly, answer questions. So were really looking forward to that opportunity. How about research . Where is that in tr treating and understanding ocd. The research we have done focuses on how to make treatment more effective and more accessible. There is but sadly few people have access to that. There are very few centers of excellence that treat ocd. So with what we bedroom trying n trying is how do we make it more accessible. One of the things we have done is made a program. Historically it has all been on Desktop Computers with big monitors and those are becoming somewhat extinct. Their hand these days. Thats right. Were shrinking the program into an app and putting it on a hand held device a smart phone and we need to of course restudy it because were changing the program and changing the size of it. But the idea is if we can find that this app is as effective as the bigger version so to speak this is not only going to help us treat people more effectively, but really dramatically increase the accessible ibility. So many people have smart phones. This is exciting. People are going to wonder is this in place of compliment to therapy . Its also important to understand how and why it works because it has this app, its a program that sort of trains peoples brains away from the words they find threatening or like germs like we talked about trains them in a new way to kind of take their mind off of those obsessive thoughts and therefore hopefully stop the compulsive behaviors. Yeah. People with ocd tell us they kind of have their radar out and they are scanning their environment for any signs that or frighten them and they think of this as almost a protective thing that somehow this is going to help them. But unfortunately, its exactly the opposite it fuels their condition and makes ocd worse. This Computer Program shuts that radar down, trains their attention way from the thicks thingsthey find threatening and reduces ocd. Can you ever use ocd to your benefit becoming obsessed with ti become a better person . I wish it were so. I dont think so. Everyone focuses on things and so forth. I would think if we talked to people who have ocd they would probably say that it really never can be something positive. You know focus and attention is good, but this is again something really a great exage exaggeration. What i think is wonderful the attention to make it more lives i think thats the wonderful thing about this. We wanted to remind people about the free Event Next Week octobey Technical College. Experts will be there to share more information about ocd, but also take your questions. You can find out more about that event by going to the website we just had on your screen. To learn more about that event, or expert care available at rogers memorial hospital, because they are so close and have experts in wonderful programs there, you can phone number you see there. Or send an email to Research Studies rogers hospital. Org. Great to see you. Thank you. Great to s you. Thank you very much. What mama says can make a difference in your life. I know my mom has had catch phrases i live by. How one woman is honoring her weome back. Our mother helps to shape who we become as women. What would mama say is the question. Our next guest asked herself as she turned her teaching career into a writing career. Said. Shes a teacher because her mom asked her to consider it. Her mom saw her teaching in her future before she even did. That is true. Absolutely. Thats how moms are. They justnow right . They to. I know youre no longer teaching but you have i used so many of your experiences in part of your writing. Absolutely. Its a double benefit. Its a blessing to be to not only have taughtn in the Public School system, but also, getting an opportunity to be a mother, and to appreciate what my mother actually had to go through with me, and when i reflect on that experience, i think oh, i cant believe that i gave my mother such a hard time you know, but thats what teenagers do right. So were always testing the waters with our mothers, with our parents, but i was very, very blessed, very fortunate to have the type of mother that i did, very strong, woman and children. Im one of seven siblings. And one of i have a twin brother and i have younger brothers that are twins so my mother along with my dad, she had three sets of twi. No way. Oh, yes way. Three ssf twins . The first set of twins passed prematurely and so a few years later, when technology improved if the medical field my brother and i later she had another set of twins. So, i say it as a blessing. No matter how you look at it its just a blessing one set of twins in one family is a blessing, but toave sets you know. [laughter] seriously. Thats really where your story comes in you have this mother that shares her pearls of wisdom with her daughter. Its a light hearted story. You get an opportunity to appreciate the importance of a moer and a daughters bond. I remember as a teenager growing up being defiant and not really understanding and appreciating the wisdom our mothers teach us ase go along in life. And it wast until i became an adult, became a mother myself, became a wife, and became an unrstoodhe fullageally, rlly the influence my mher hadwithinn educor myself. Were there any fun sayings that stick out in your mind. Things she said especially if they are funny or just came true in your life you would often go back through in your mind . My mom said a whole lot and, one of, on my way here today, in planning for this segment, i remembered and i shared this mama always said if you plan to be ear, you will never be late. [laughter] and it made sense to me. So, i have received so many good leings in terms of advice and ons from my mother and the one i tend to fall back on quite a bit throughout my adulthood is e Small Victories that count. I found myself saying to my students when they appeared to be a little say hey, you know, try not to look at the big picture here in terms of being successful, or successfully reading a book, try to take it one step at a time. Thats what my mother taught me take it one step at a time. Its t Small Victories that really count. I like that. Yeah i do too. Its been, its sustained me for all these years. Its something truly you care thats something you do as well is create these nuggets and tools for educators to use with students. Yes i love your reference to nuggets. Thats a lot of the advice we receive from our parents and our mothers. And as an educator what i tried to do is take my experience as an educator, identify what areas we can improve on as teachers in terms of reaching out to families. So in the story, the mother did that. The mother in the out, the main character bonita came home and mom asked how was your day at school . In real life my mother when she would ask me or my siblings that question she expected responses more than the abbreviated response. Good, its fine. My mom was like no really how was your day in school she was very interested, very in tune. Character would try to getaway with that response. It was all right. She makes referen to that in the story. The mother my mom in the story, didnt except that. She wanted to know really, did you learn anything . What did you learn today . You know did you struggle with your writing today . What happened. Really today . Have here cupcakes flors its we a hallmark i love it. The theme of your book. Yes absolutely. So my hope iso rlly focus on why the second edition this is acal were celebrating our 5th year with mama said, the original mama said was actually produc in 2011ohis is our 5tye with the second it and insiddon is themunition com com. Paon and this is tool that would so helpf educators, to families, because what it does it talks about it gets int what a student is interested in. What is your tic of intest . How do you know that is the topic of interes were out of time, but people can get thistour website correct . Absolutely. Heres the website where you can find more and book signings. November 12 at 9 00 a. M. At the sheridan milwaukee and november 19 at the metropolitan educatio you nis mama said wt to. Com. Ly an honor thank you. Hs can learn from this years president ial election. Important information for drivers you know who has the welcome back to the Morning Blend. Heres a very sobering number, 50. Thats the number of pedestrians who were hit by vehicles and killed in wisconsin last year. That was up 22 from the previous year. In an effort to kee people safe the Wisconsin Bike Federation is steppi in to remd motorists to yield to pedestrians with share and beware. Tom held is back to promote feor tseran foot sshocking. I dont if some of it is related to cellphone use or people not knowing the rules. Either way these are important rules we need as drivers and pedestrians to beware of right . Ht. Awom the enfcement people i he talked t