Dana, it's sort of i could do a woulda, coulda shoulda, i don't know. but for me in large part, i know he's going to be in my life together because we share a child together so i have to figure out how to navigate that relationship for the sake of my child. we have figured that out. >> there's a lot of hurt. i'm somebody who is divorced with a child. i can say that and we have that in common, and as a mom, you just have to put a lot of stuff, to eat a lot of stuff in order to do what's right for your child? >> in part, because you want to model this for your children, and for me, it is all abo...