so he just dealt with it. yes. he had to internalize all of it. do you think grandfather was resentful of his life in america because he came from such privilege in china? i don t think so because he had great dreams for your dad and for me. i think my father and my mother were very, very proud. one memory that comes to me is when they got their citizenship and they cried because they said, we love america. the restaurant gave my family a foothold here, a place to land and launch. today that pattern continues. across america in nearly every small town is a chinese restaurant. and many are gateways to citizenship for china s poorest immigrants. more than 50 years after my own ....