I was gaslighted by my ex. Should I confront him?
Our reader has been thinking about her abusive ex - and is considering whether to confront him for closure. She asks The Midults for advice
26 February 2021 • 12:00pm
'I can see now that I was being manipulated by my ex, but I don’t know whether to confront him'
Credit: Alberto Miranda
Dear A&E,
I’ve been in a happy relationship for three years, but recently I’ve started thinking about my ex. I’ve realised I was a victim of gaslighting without knowing it. He once left me on the hard shoulder while we were driving home from a restaurant because he said I’d been ‘too friendly’ towards a waiter, and he kicked me out of bed one night after I told him I loved him but ‘didn’t sound convincing’. Afterwards he always said I drove him to it, so I’d apologise. I can see now that I was being manipulated, but I don’t know whether to speak to him about it? It would help me get closure, but equally I don't want to jeapordise my current relationship. Help! — Lost