and sometimes after a traumatic event our minds basically repress a memory. it is really a defense mechanism. to spare us when we come in so overwhelmingly anxious and depressed in the face of trauma that these memories are suppressed and we don't have access to them. sometimes it is called dissociative amnesia. you don't remember. it may be much later perhaps a trigger happens something that reminds you in any way of the event. you might have an intrusive memory. and more and more memories. later you may be able to process that may different way than you could have earlier. be able to manage work your way through trauma develop resilience coping tools as she seems to have done. and come out to another place. that is what it sounds like it is a very common occurrence. >> she talks about in her essay about how she learned about the