with the right kind of music and the right kind of triumph and maps and stuff like that. but then there was the other one that was displayed by every single care giver, every adult that was in my world. which was they talked about the war in very personal terms. when they talked about the life before the war, their lives were simple. their lives were also dangerous because they could get, you died of pneumonia before world war ii. you could have a tooth abscess that could kill you. when they say that was before the war because during the war was this huge cranial shift of their vision of the world, how big it was, how tight it was and forces that were out there that effectively altered their daily lives and then after the war of course it was like we're here and we share that burden with so many other people. there's no reason to talk about