this is big lesson she taught us. my sister and i would fight all the time. she would sit us down on the couch together. she would never allow us to stay in the argument. and she would make us sit there together until we could apologize authentically and say i love you. and then we would have to go into her room and show her us saying we were sorry and we loved each other. and if she didn't believe it or fila thentic we'd have to go right back. >> so that's not black girl magic. that's like black girl sorcery. that's some major stuff. >> so as i like to say it's the reality, the way we are that makes black magic possible. >> i've got so much i want to talk about especially why you are speaking up for women. more when we get back. minor fender bender tonight in an unreasonably narrow fast food drive thru lane. but what a powerful life lesson. and don't worry i have everything handled.