it. they are actually black fathers who are beating black son because they're gay. my doorman told me a story today as we talked about this as we walked into the building. >> i think a lot of things are connected in how we are constructing masculinity as it relates to black people, right. black men do have a legitimate gripe that black masculinity is under assault. the problem becomes when they conflate that attack with natural expressions of people being queer. they consider that could be a continuation of that attack. and what i have to keep telling them, no, if you're black, all of us are under assault. and when we kind of deconstruct that and say there is nothing wrong with this and it is not this part of an expression of humanity is not an assault on your masculinity, then we can start to deconstruct some of the ways that we as parents, as fathers, as a community of black people and black men treat other