affirmative decision. >> megyn: so, you know, i tend to think, i don't know if these studies, there are plenty of people who co-habitate together and have great marriages and i tend to take these with a grain of salt. in the intro you said women are choosing to do this. my experience anecdotal, most of my friends who ended up doing this, the guy wouldn't get married. that was not their choice, they wanted to get married. >> megyn: they said women are more likely to view-- this is a psychologist. women are looking to see it it it as a way too marriage and men are to test it or postpone the commitment. and remember the old phrase, why should i buy the cow if i'm getting the milk for free, right? >> right. >> we have all of these cliches, but they're there for a reason and maybe the question then, as kirsten points out. maybe the question is, are we