is let your friends know you're concentrating on your treatment. you'll keep them updated when there's something new. they're all well meaning, but you get fluttered with phone calls, how you doing? what's going on? you're trying to concentrate where you are. finally as i describe it in the book, when you hear about a friend you have sympathy. you cannot be em pathetic until it enters your family. when one family member gets cancer everybody does. it's the enemy modern medicine faces. they have to go to war everyday. it fights back unlike any other condition we experience. >> and you mentioned jennifer, dr. jennifer brokaw. i wanted to play you talking to jennifer about this. >> when i first got cancer i think it was not so much in