I haven't had a boyfriend for a decade. Here's what I've learned. 10 years of being single has taught me to be kinder to myself. By Rachel Thompson on August 30, 2019 Credit: vicky leta / mashable I was at a funeral a few months ago when something was said to me that threw my status as my family's perennial singleton into sharp relief. I was holding my cousin's new baby when a relative called out, "Get a good look at this. Because it'll be the last time you ever see Rachel holding a child." My aunts, uncles, cousins, and even family friends turned their heads to do precisely as they'd been instructed: have a good gawp at me. Someone even took a photo to memorialise this moment.