it. sometimes we don't want a gift but if you want to give to charity or buy a toy for somebody else. don't give any excuses. believe people when they say that. then if you people tell you not to give a gift, don't show up at a party with a gift because everybody else feels guilty. we really have to be honest about it. if you want a gift, don't say you don't want it and if you say that, have people who say that you should believe them and then when we all do that, we will get off of this train. now, listen. i'm not talking about not giving people anything. i'm not a gift giver. that is not my love language but i know people like you who love giving gifts but we are getting to the point where we will have a recession and when it comes, you're not going to want to have all of that debt. let's be real. most of us, i'm not talking about people who live in poverty but most of us already have everything we need. wouldn't it be wonderful if we had a holiday where we just sat around and talked to each other and not running from store-to-store but just loving on each other. >> yes.