hair? shhh, we don't talk about it. what is happening to derrick and sa sara? we don't talk about it. >> right. >> how long -- how many drinks has uncle arthur -- shhh, we don't talk about it. this is a time for backbone and steel because, frankly, only the brave get out of this in one piece. >> and if there's a lot of drinking, then all of a sudden you're talking about everything. nothing's off the table. >> exactly. >> is it psychological warfare, wendy? >> in some ways it can be, one of the things richard is talking about, you're talking about from the other side of the pond, where there's a lot of repression and here in america we talk about too many things and we need to learn to restrain ourselves a little bit. >> i don't know if you've met richard quest yet. he doesn't fit your stereotypical across the pond. >> i need a few sessions on your sofa to get rid of my repression. >> but i do think, listen, we get together, sanjay, for one