he minimizes the injury to her and he is very arrogant and says i don't have time to defend myself against her allegations. he is condescending. he has her phone, he has her van. all the indications are that he is a controlling, manipulative guy. he won't let her in the van. cops know he won't let her in the van and holding onto her phone. this guy is a classic guy in terms of what cops look for and why we have mandatory arrest laws in the united states as it relates to domestic violence. police are mandated to determine who was the primary aggressor and they are mandated to make an arrest. this isn't like we can't figure it out. she says he has. when you are dealing with a woman who is battered or abused she is going to take responsibility. just as we know she did at that place, the restaurant where she goes in and apologizes for him getting into a fight.