happen, tracking him down to an out of the way beach. >> she actually told us, you know, i'm walking on this beach that's nowhere near my house and i say, the next man i walk into -- >> he's the one. >> yeah. and it ends up being j.j. it wasn't -- >> maybe in the movies, i guess, that might happen. >> calculating, said the detectives. and in keeping. >> a lot of the description to us of their relationship was she was more controlling. >> and especially, without exception -- >> she controlled the money. >> when j.j. retired from the police department, he collected a pension as well as his salary at the medical examiner's office. but he never saw any of the money. both checks went directly into a bank account controlled only by cara. >> all he did was deposit his checks. he couldn't tell you how much they even were. he was very controlled.