Am I Being Unkind by Rejecting My Fatherâs Gifts? https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/02/magazine/am-i-being-unkind-by-rejecting-my-fathers-gifts.html Credit...Illustration by Tomi Um Feb. 2, 2021 I am a biracial young woman whose parents were never married and come from very different cultural backgrounds. My white American mother raised me mainly on her own, with the help of her parents. Because of conflicts and misunderstandings, I had barely any contact during my childhood with my father and his family â who immigrated from China to the United States before I was born. But after I started college, I wanted to use my newfound autonomy to develop a relationship with them.