Can I refuse to go to my brother's wedding? Our reader's brother is getting married in the same venue where she wed her now ex-husband. She asks The Midults whether she can pull out 21 May 2021 • 12:00pm 'My brother's fiancée (who I have yet to meet) is insisting that it’s her big day and her dream wedding venue' Credit: Martin Tognola Dear A&E, My brother is getting married and they have decided to use the same wedding venue where I married my now ex-husband. It was a terrible marriage and an even worse divorce and three years on, I’m single and still feel shaken by the whole experience. I’ve talked to my brother but his fiancée (who I have yet to meet) is insisting that it’s her big day and her dream wedding. My parents think I should rise above it all, but I know I’ll find it hugely upsetting... So can I pull out? I’m really confused about what is reasonable and what is hysterical. — Wretched