the day after this happened, they shared the information they could at the time. they said that they felt that was sufficient. they felt it was necessary to do it from a podium in the briefing room rather than through a written statement that it would elevate it. and they do believe that the president was essentially just trying to do his best to call these family members and to express his condolences, and i think one of the things that was telling in what general kelly was saying is that he advised the president not to make these calls. that he said there's nothing you're going to be able to do that lightens the burden on the families and frankly he said in his situation when he lost his son, was the only thing was hearing from his son's buddies. >> they weren't upset according to general kelly they didn't hear from obama. it wasn't particularly important. i want to play one of the sound bytes from general kelly in the control room, general kelly talked a great deal about the decent graduation of american