>> this is a crime against the state. and in every other case, prosecution relies on the victim. the victim freely. >> your son hit by a drunk driver what. do you want punishment? >> what does she want me to or not. >> they ask what you would you like to see happen to this person? >> and a lot of times what happened is that emotion gets in the way. and if you feel sorry for your spouse. >> is that why he beat her up? >> that is why the investigation has to take place. >> and 911 can be used as a sword as well as a shield. >> it can be. you've got to make sure she signs away her hipa and