Getty | Khadija Horton Deciding to have kids with a partner is one of the biggest steps you can take in a relationship, not to mention your life. Everything you know about your lifestyle is about to change! Like all things relationship-wise, it’s a great idea to have an honest discussion with your partner about your thoughts and feelings on the matter before embarking on any big decisions. Not only is it a great time to share your perspective, but also to learn more about your partner. If you’ve always pictured yourself being a hyper-involved parent while your partner has always been of the “let them figure it out for themselves” mentality, now is a great time to discuss that – and not 15 years into the future when you get called into the principal’s office.