I find I'm better — more relaxed, generous, compassionate — in my relationships when I take care of myself first. When you're unconditional loving towards yourself, it makes it easier to extend that same grace to others. "Dear Therapists" is a podcast that has helped me gain that deeper, more nuanced perspective on myself and other people. I first learned about it from one of its hosts, Lori Gottlieb, when I interviewed her about a very similar resource: Her book, "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone". "Dear Therapists", like "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone" lets you step inside actual therapy sessions without going yourself. Gottlieb and her co-host, Guy Winch, record therapy sessions with people who write in about challenges they're facing (affairs, estrangement, stress, etc.). You get to hear the session, and Gottlieb and Winch offer a set of action items the person can take in the next week to improve their situation.