we manifest it in different ways. but we're both so scared and just clinging, clawing for stability, for a sense of self. >> i will make you so sorry for what you've done to my family, mark my words. >> that's [ bleep ] up. i would never say anything that [ bleep ] up to anybody. but you do, because you're so gross inside. >> the intense role was hard to shake off the set. how do you separate it? how do you not take that home with you? or do you? >> after i had my daughter, i struggled with that a little bit, because i needed to come home and be clean for her. and especially when i started doing this i realized i really need to leave sidney at work. i made a real conscious effort. i have a wonderful partner, darren, who really helped me with that. >> despite her five oscar nominations, adams hasn't succumbed to the pitfall of