identity. it was obedient. we all want to think that we're independent and we would never agree, but the science, the social science says we're programmed to fit into groups. we're going to start adapting to the people in our environment in order to fit in. >> hi. >> we're glad you're here. >> oh, me too. >> when you're in a cult, especially for any length of time, you're in what i call a self-sealing system. this is a social system that's closed in on itself. your free will is under the will of the leader and the group. so, you're only doing what you need to do to stay in the good graces of the group. >> what ended up happening was there was these idle threats, from my point of view, of fear that if you miss the boat, you may not get another chance.