you and love you for exactly who you are. sometimes the people you need to shut out are often the ones that love you. because oftentimes their expectations of you can be a lot of pressure and burden. >> seeing issues like gay marriage in particular, moving very fast in america, faster than many people imagined was possible, what does that tell you about modern america and its ability perhaps to becomes much more accepting and tolerant than they may have been even 20 years ago? >> i think that movement has been going on for a very long time. i think it's a product of much hard work and movement and organizing. it's been going on since the 1960s. and people were also very much a part of that movement. i think of silva rivera, marcia p. johnson, miss major griffin gracie. these women were also on the streets fighting for their lives that night. so for me, i think that america is about self-determination. and exceptionalism and exerting who your identity is in a world that hopefully becomes more and more safe to express yourself