but what do you say to that commenter? >> um i think part of that is fair. but i will say viewers watch. they watch in droves. so i would say to that gentleman who wrote that comment to my op-ed, viewers are in part to blame. because they want to hear too and it's not just because they're being exploiters themselves. it's because when we hear victims' stories, it helps us make sense of the world. in other words, when we hear victims' stories and we hear how that victim reacted to what happened to them, it helps us make sense of the world. it helps us see that there is hope -- that there is such a thing as survival and there is such a thing as going on. >> another commenter on the op-ed wrote this, when my brother killed himself, a journalism student from the university of iowa actually live to the hospital and told him she was his sister to try to get the story.