southern university. >> my parents have been married for 50 years, my husband's parents married for 50 years. >> when i found in the article is it's sort of like that was not believable. that's not part of the african american culture is having a family that's like the huxtables. i know many. that's what i got when it talked about to grieve with regan and made daniel patrick, the report on the negro scene seemed like they were in agreement. there are many african americans like the huxtables and there had before. >> there have been and still are and will be. the larger question that will detail our writer was posing was one about black respectability politics and how well that serves us. does it serve us at all to buy into this notion that perfection as we -- >> explain respectability. if you -- respectability means if you act right or act a certain way you won't be discriminated against. >> right, somehow your blackness