men today who are suffering at greater rates of suicide, opioid addiction, lower life expectancy, depression. of all of these social pathologies increasing among men, stabilizing in some cases going down among women. clearly, we have a problem. my concern is that further demonizing men are making them feel bad because of their biology, they're more aggressive they have testosterone, that is a fact of life. i worry that we fairly alienate them. and they turn into these, youyod so scared, but so depressed and so scared and they are worried about saying anything anywhere. you go out on the street, people t,e worried about saying much of anything except for hi, how are you doing. you can't compliment on somebody's dress. you can't say anything. i think that poisons human relationships. dan. >> laura, this is so obvious. why do you think we have a self-esteem problem with boys? if you tell boys how worthless