right away as oh my gosh, look what happened to him, that kind of makes sense, it's going to be something that was unique to him, it irritated him, but it's not going to be that sensational. it will be something, though, that to him changed -- changed life for him but when you and i hear it we'll be that's it? really? that's the reason? >> yeah. yeah. and why so long? why october of last year until now? so his girlfriend mary lou danley described him as a kind, caring, and quiet man. how does that square with the biggest mass killer of all times? >> it doesn't. what it does square with we know in other crimes of violence over the years the fbi has looked at what we call compliant victims. and a compliant victim, the spouse or a girlfriend of a violent offender can be someone who's been groomed over a period of time to see that boyfriend or