>> and a key part of that is having someone to grow with. >> it's our new home. >> when you two met, was it instant? >> we liked each other a lot, but the timing wasn't right. but a few years later we reconnected. and when we had our first kiss, it really did feel like fireworks. >> when chandler and zander first met, they both identified as girls. since then everything has changed. chandler identifies as agender. he identifies as flux. >> i joked about how i was a lesbian. and i'm dating a guy and i'm not a girl. >> where's my toy, where's my toy? aerks oh, what a big one.