>> reporter: new york state says it's helping more and more people with developmental disabilities lead increasingly independent lives. it says it's in the process of shutting down those sheltered workshops and trying to help people find jobs. >> ruth can sing a peanut butter sandwich made with jam. >> i had always thought when he got older i had this vague idea that he would have some kind of a job and that it would be over. and i am only adjusting now over the last two years in this transition period to understand that it's never going to be over. as long as i'm alive, i will be caring for eric. >> reporter: being a champion for someone who has a developmental disability can be draining. studies show a higher incidence of depression among parents and caregivers. six months after eric's graduation, mary is struggling. >> reporter: when i think about you being with him day in and day out and having the special relationship that you do. it's wonderful but i also know it must be so hard day to day. >> it is exhausting.