if i do go, i want you to like -- i want everybody like stay strong. i don't want you guys grieving or crying. that's what i've taken into place and just going off that and i have all my friends that are like contacting me, supporting me and so just -- >> and that helps? >> yeah. so, yeah. >> you've been a family friend for how long? >> for 25 years. lifelong friend and god parent to the children. >> what do you want people to know about bennetta because she fled iran. >> that's right, she was an 18-year-old girl and fled, christian woman that fled because of the religious persecution. she came to the united states to start a new life. eventually moved to california where she met her husband arland. had their three children that you see here. she graduated from college with a degree in chemistry and hired