in this situation in fight or flight at all costs? >> i would err more on that side that it's an instinctive survival mechanism. let's face it, she was in shock. if i'm scared in the dark i can barely find the right key to put in a lock when i'm overthinking something so imagine at this point she's in shock and her body is on automatic function and from that point the instincts kick in. think about warmth stay alive. also the idea perhaps that maybe her parents aren't dead if she can get them help. >> i keep thinking about what await this is little one because her parents have died one of her siblings has died a cousin has died in this accident. i understand there's another sibling that may be out there. grandparents are said to be caring for her now how do you begin to help a child deal with this trauma? not just having lost people but been in the very accident that took their lives?