up for those that i love, but i also care about people, i'm compassionate, empathetic. we're kind of mixing up this concept that if somehow a man shows kindness or empathy or consideration for others, that's somehow not masculine, and that is just not okay. that's just not true. >> a lesson emhoff says he learned growing up in new jersey from watching his father michael. >> he's just such a strong role model for me, and he was a woman shoe designer, and he was strong and tough, but sensitive and creative and artistic, yet, you know, we're talking about masculinity, i think my father is a masculine man, and he just taught me like it's okay to, you know, focus on your family, be there for your family no matter what. >> do you ever catch yourself thinking what would a woman do in this situation? >> not what a woman would do but