josh. you write about your sexuality in a very matter of fact way. you've been together for 11 years. you've been engaged for two years. but i think a lot of people probably didn't know you were gay. why did this feel like the right time to tell the public and write about the decision you did as if we all already knew. >> yeah, thank you. one of the big goals of the book was to make people laugh and, b, feel like you're just having a beer with me or four or five. and part of that was sharing a lot more experiences. josh and i have been together for 11 years. i'm really happy to share that chapter with folks. that chapter to your point is a love story ensconced in nascar. our second date, you know this from working in d.c., like sundays were my only days off as a staffer. when josh and i met, i was like, come over. we'll watch tv. it's a sunday afternoon. he comes over with an 18-pack of coors light and turns my tv to nascar. immediately i'm like this dude is going to leave with 16 of