but you should be willing to compromise on everything else. so one of those three things for me has always been that i'm able to go and spend between 6 and 12 weeks a year working on mercy ships as a surgeon in africa and that has been a non-negotiable with me from my very first job. >> dana: in your book you say if you get an employer to alloy you to do that what do you need to do back home at the office? >> so this is non-traditional. whether it's in medical field or otherwise. a non-traditional thing to say i would like to be gone for 12 weeks out of the year. it is really important on the back end that you are -- when you are back home you are the most productive, most supportive, the best citizen of the department or company that you are in. so it doesn't seem like you are shirking your duties and disappearing to africa but instead it is part and parcel of your care. >> dana: you talk about the