incarceral system. lots of people aren't thinking about those issues when they're talking about estate planning, they're just saying, oh, i want to make sure this gets to this kid, but there's so much more to preserving everything that we've worked for, especially in our community when it is complicated. we have lots of blended families in our community. some families that are built by love. we have grandparents who are raising grandchildren, they are not accounted for under the law, and so we have to create comprehensive estate plans to make sure our wishes are honored and so all of those are questions that need to be thought about as we go along. i think this is such a necessary conversation, portia, and i don't think this is the last time we'll talk about it. there are other things, should your family member be the executor of your estate, and you know, things that i know i have been unpacking the past few weeks, so thank you so much for giving this very difficult