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in a live report coming up from aruba. sensitive question is right here, so i have to ask it. are either of you the type who step on the scale in the morning to see if you gained a pound or two? i m not that kind. no. not every day but i ve been known to step on the scale. i ll step on the scale. when i come back from vacation i weighed eight pounds more than when i left. i like to say it s a lot of water. your weight does not actually determine whether you re healthy of not. in many cases you can be overweight and live just as long as a thin person. so we re going to take a look at that and what all people should be doing. do you step on the scale? once a week or maybe. check in. you know. you can t obsessively step on it though. moving on to stress and marriage. when you re married there s a lot to disagree about sometimes. it could be sex, money, the kids. you know that just sometimes adds strain to the relationship. we will have good advice this morning on handling it all. but here is a couple who shouldn t be feeling any stress yet. all fun and glamour. the kardashian wedding was this weekend. she married nba player kris humphries, her sweetheart. not one, not two, but three gowns. he even changed his outfit. we re going to talk to kathie lee giffords, one of the guests. there she is. she got a lot of stuff, too. that will be fun. first, a check of the morning s top stories. natalie morales at the news desk. good morning, again. residents in florida, gnl, and the carolinas need to keep an eye on hurricane irene today. turned from a tropical storm to a hurricane earlier this morning. it could hit the southeast later this week. right now irene is drenching puerto rico after pounding the virgin islands. it looks like a end is near for moammar gadhafi. rebel forces have overtaken the capital of tripoli leading to mass celebrations there. the fighting isn t over. some forces loyal to gadhafi are using tanks to fire on rebel forces. nato says they will continue air patrols over libya until he surrenders. at least one of his sons is in custody. now to new developments in the case of missing american tourist in aruba. a new witness may poke holes in the suspect s story. nbc s jeff rossen is in aruba with the latest. jeff? reporter: natalie, good morning to you. nearly three weeks since robyn gardner disappeared on aruba. right now police have mobilized and they are out searching on the southern tip, the southern shores of aruba looking for robyn or her remains. they are out there right now, 50 investigators. you can see in some live pictures just the kinds of rugged terrain we re talking about as desolate and desert like out there. they re hoping to find something that gives them a clue to this case. meanwhi meanwhile, there s a new bombshell this morning in the investigation. all along the main suspect gary giordano has stuck to his story that he and robyn were snorkeling here in aruba and she went missing while snorkeling. law enforcement sources tell nbc news there s a new witness who came forward who could tear his story apart. behind these looming walls of aruba s prison officials say gary giordano won t budge, that robyn went missing underwater and he did nothing wrong. but now police say a fisherman out on his boat that day says he saw the couple, and not only did they not go snorkeling, they didn t even get in the water. that story has not been proven yet. it has not been into reality. if that statement bears reality, it s something that might change the path of the investigation. reporter: law enforcement sources tell nbc news the fisherman claims he saw gary and robyn leave the beach together. if true, that would shatter giordano s time line. undoubtedly he will be questioned in the coming week. reporter: sources say giordano s behavior after she went missing was bizarre, too. he left the search early to sleep in his hotel. ga giordano was arrested days later at the airport sweating while trying to leave aruba. law enforcement sources say he told customs he was switching flights because of the weather, and his travel companion robyn was taking another flight. the more time passes by, the more people are going to wonder if, you know, if they can be able to solve the case. and people think that aruba is a very perfect place to commit a crime. reporter: according to the police report obtained by nbc news, giordano told investigators he and robyn were drinking vodka at the marriott, and robyn had a bottle of pills in her bag. i do not know what those pills are for, he said. the relationship that began on match.com ends in mystery. nearly three weeks since robyn s disappearance, aruban police have no clue where she is. every single day, every minute of the day you re constantly thinking about where s robyn, where s robyn. reporter: police here in aruba are still questioning giordano just about every single day, trying to get something, anything out of him. they say he is cooperating to a point. that is, he answers some questions but then refuses to answer questions that he says he s already answered. important to note here, natalie, prosecutors in aruba can, in fact, charge him with murder. he s not charged with anything yet. just being held as a prime suspect. they can charge him with murder even without a body but of course that will make the case much more difficult for prosecutors. jeff rossen, thank you. federal investigators are looking into a fatal crash at an air show in kansas city, missou missouri, this weekend. a stunt pilot was killed when the plane failed to pull out of a dive. this morning the american academy of pediatrics is warning parents about the danger os children falling out of windows. it happens more than 5,000 times every year. the injuries can be very serious, even fatal. most falls from one or two story windows. experts are urging parents to use window stop or guards. now to the weekend box office. the hit movie the help ceacki fans into the theaters. took over the top spot at the box office in the second weekend bringing $20 million. rise of the plan nell of the apes came in two. it is seven minutes past the hour. you re up to date. let s go back outside to ann and carl. thank you so much. how about a check of the weather? okay. maria larosa, let s do it. she s standing by for al this morning. hey, maria. good morning. we have family in the audience here. kentucky, wpsd, local 6 12k3w4r good morning, kentucky. sights are turned to the tropics because we re following irene. now a hurricane. winds at 75 miles an hour. came onshore this morning as a tropical storm and then strengthened. it will move to the west northwest at about 14 miles per hour. you re looking at all the model data where they re expecting to take on irene. moving more to the east, away from florida. perhaps closer to the southeast coast and the carolinas. it does look like possibly touce it is going to turn out to be a nice day. mostly sunny, a little breezy, a lot less humid. high temperatures in the low 80s. savannah, back to you. narrator: today s health is brought to you by cheerio s cereal. this morning on today s health, why good health isn t always measured in pounds. people who are overweight with only minor health problems can live just as long as those who are thin. dr. tanya is an internist and chief medical officer here at nbc universal and nutrition editor. good morning to both of you. i read this study that seems to me it was saying if you are obese, but you have only minor health problems, then you can live just as long as people who do not have a weight issue. but isn t that kind of obvious? if you have minor health problems, the fact that someone is overweight isn t going to affect their length of their life? am i missing something? the point here really is that weight isn t the only factor. okay? people who have a healthy lifestyle, they are healthier than people who don t, even people who are overweight. but you can t have any real medical problems. this really only applies to the population who maybe has borderline high blood sure, borderline sugars, elevated liver enzyme, mild aches and pains. but you can t be in that major risk category. minor health problems. so, natalie, what do you take away from this study, that just because someone is obese doesn t necessarily mean that their health is at risk? this medical classification of bmi, body mass index, that only means how heavy you are. it doesn t indicate your health risk. you can take population information about what weight puts you at risk to the individual. so what i take away from this is the idea that you have to choose a weight that if you have a healthy lifestyle, if you re eating well, lots of fruits and vegetables, physically active, walking 30 or 40 minutes a day. if you re working at wellness, that weight is one important barometer. it might not be that gold standard under a bmi of 25. it might be the overweight category. it might be in the obese category. you can t fool yourself into thinking, oh, it s just a few pounds, when you re huffing and puffing walking down the street. it bear respeating that havig extra weight can have health risks. absolutely. diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, sleep apnea, even depression, they are significant risks to having heart disease, especially if you don t follow these lifestyle habits. on the flip side, madeleine, you do have a case where people are thin or appear thin but they have too much fat. they don t have enough muscle and that can be an issue. like tonya says, weight is only one barometer of health and wellness. you be thin, your number and pounds can look good but you can have too much body fat because you re not physically active. what we have to get away from is that number on the scale and go what are you doing to promote a healthy lifestyle. you can t control your genes. i have patients like this. the bmi that is calling them overweight and the normal skinny. but the overweight who exercises every day, eats fruits and vegetables, no fast food, is healthier than my skinny fat patient who doesn t have to do anything, can eat whatever they want, not exercise. that skinniest does not protect them. and i also notice in this study that yo-yo dieting, according to the study, can almost be more tadangerous thanf the person never lost the weight at all. dancing your mind and body. it s mentally damaging to keep having successful weight loss and regaining and feeling like a failure all the time. that s a negative. the other is that biologically when you re skewing your metabolism, over eating and restricting all the time, heart problems, gallbladder issues and health issues in general. choosing a weight based on something that is doable for you and more manageable when we hear realistic goals, that s important because if you take a weight that s too low targeting, i need to be that the perfect bmi, you will often fail. the flip side of this study is choose a weight that s good for you, not necessarily one that you read. few seconds we have left, doctor, what s your basic prescription for anybody of any weight, just to keep in good health? this study shows it. exercise daily, even if it s just 30 minutes. you can break them up into ten minutes a day. it could be at the gym for an hour and healthy eating like madeleine talks about. that s the ticket. all right. thank you. nice to see you both. coming up next, whether it s money, work, or the kids, we ll have advice on how to keep stress from ruining your marriage. and later, one thing that can add to this stress, of course, is disciplining your kids. we will tell you why parents need to be on the same page on these issues. 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[ laughs ] this morning on today s relationships, keeping stress out of your mancrriage, whether it s money, the kids, or stress in your life. here with some advice is today s contributor and psychiatrist dr. gail saltz. our spouse takes the brunt of what we feel. we tend to pile it on, i think. you feel intimate and trust them to handle it. also, a little bit of parenting, if you will. that nurturing, feel that you don t get from parents anymore when you re an adult. you kind of want your spouse to provide it. you re friends, you hope they shoulder some of that. what are some of the triggers that often struck the moment to set off the anxiety. now is a very stressful time for many marriages because money is probably a number one source of the stress. when you re feeling stressed about that, you know, and you have to organize, budgeting, where you re going to spend it, who is going to make it, that s a big source. sex probably comes in second. kids? many people don t agree on that. how you re going to raise your kids. an outside relationships can also be a big source of stress. in-laws, friends, and competing for time in those relationships. you have really helpful tips, communication tips. the first thing you say, empathize. these are coping tools that use. empathize mean literally standing in your spouse s shoes, which most of us don t do when we start an argument. we are intent on being right. put yourself in their position. it will help you feel less angry and less stressed about what is going on between the two of you. with the empathy shows that you re listening. it s important to make sure that you hear what they re saying. exactly. and do this by something i call mirroring. you sit down for a few minutes. you say, this is what i m thinking. and the other person listens and doesn t say a thing, and then repeats that. if i heard you correctly, you are thinking this, this, this. then you switch places because this makes sure that you really are being heard and you really feel understood on both sides. okay. you also say use collaborative language. that means we are together, not you, me, me, me, which puts you on the defense. you re a team. and keep in touch, of course. so this has a double-edge thing. you do want to keep in touch through the day, maybe it s a little call, maybe it s a little texting. but some people turn all of their relationship 2into calls and text, so that s not a good time, either. you want a sit-downtime to actually talk. let s work through specific scenarios. fif first, money, as you mentioned. let s say you want to go out and take your daughter for back to school shopping. your husband, though, says don t blow the money. stick to the budget. how do you hand that situation? here is a great example where mirroring actually is useful because most people s money concerns come from back history, family of origin, things that they re worried about. i only got my sister s hand me downs, i don t want my daughter to feel that way. or i m responsible for the whole family and budget, you would be angry with me later if we blow it all now. if you sit down and have that exchange and know where each other are coming from, you re much more likely to be able to meet in the middle. and agree on that budget. yes. next, kids. let s say one of the arguments, this happens a lot, parents don t really agree on the parenting. you think that your kids okay if they sit and watch a little tv before they do their homework but your husband wants them to get the homework done first. right. in addition to mirroring on that, this is where outside information is useful. collect the grades, take a look at times when tv was okay and times when no, homework actually came first. do you see a difference? does it change the data? you might include the child, if they re old enough, in the information. the next area, sex. something a lot of people know too well, you want more, i don t have time, i have a headache. how do you meet in the mid until. imempathizing because i thin for women they don t see that as a connection. if they look at that as opposed to let s do it now they would be more inclined. they need to hear from you that you are feeling exhausted and he might be able to help you out in certain ways, with the houseworks, et cetera, so you will feel more in the mood. you need to compromise on sex because you need to be having some. great information. coming up, the wedding events that has all of hollywood talking. kim kardashian walks down the aisle in vera wang, three vera wing s to be exact. we have our very own kathie lee. probably a little exhausted today. but first, these messages. really? yeah, you choose your pasta, choose your sauce, as many times as you want! a dish i create and it s never ending. i m in! i m in! the never ending pasta bowl is back. for just $8.95 try new sauces like roasted mushroom parmesan and hearty pizzaiola meat. enjoy any sauce and pasta combination, then try others. have all you want along with our unlimited fresh salad and warm breadsticks all for just $8.95. try it tonight at your olive garden. when you re here, you re family. while i took refuge from the pollen that made me sneeze. but with 24-hour zyrtec®, i get prescription strength relief from my worst allergy symptoms. so lily and i are back on the road again. with zyrtec® i can love the air®. new newtons fruit thins. real cranberries and cranberry citrus oat. crispy whole grain. newtons fruit thins, one unique cookie. 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[ male announcer ] ask the doctor about once-daily nonstimulant intuniv. that royal wedding, that s so last spring. this is the wedding of the summer, or maybe just the wedding of the weekend. kim kardashian married chris ho humphreys in a flashy black and white theme. they watched the couples say i do. our friend kathie lee gifford was among the guests. she had tnder moments. and the swag. she was so touched. oh, good color. and cute. flip-flops. i m a size 9, kathie lee. we ll talk to her. i know. meanwhile, kim and kris don t have to worry about this yet, but disciplining your kids. as a parent you have to do it but a lot of people feel it s a stigma to spanking. are there better ways to discipline your kids and still send a strong message. i think most of us grew up with it? yes. the paddles with the holes in it. that s why we re so well behaved. we behave beautifully. we re not advocating. no, looking at strategies to look to substitute. yeah, exactly. and to the kitchen. there s nothing like a rib eye and shrimp to start the day. make surf and turf italiano style. but first, the weather with maria larosa. a lot going on right now. it s quiet. it s refreshing. and we still have the thunderstorms out to the south of that boundary across georgia, florida, as well, as it pushes off the east coast. meanwhile, chance of severe weather in the midwest today. sunshine continues through most of the west, even through tomorrow. that severe risk moves through the parts of the great lakes. showers and thunderstorms in florida. that after a rough close to the weekend, it will be a nice day. breezy, a lot less humid. coming up next, from the dresses to the diamonds to the gifts? kim kardashians wedding right after this. 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what kind of surprised mane little bit. 450 guests. well over 50 celebrity types there. it really seemed like a very family oriented event. somehow they made it feel intimate. i think it was very well produced and well staged. and they didn t go too over the top because it s over the top enough when you have so much lavish pomp and circumstance. but they really brought it down to family, down to two of them. you felt like you were at any other wedding that you might have been at except the fact that there were some reality cameras shooting things. you know, these days everybody shoots their own weddings, in way. i was touched how they weren t intrusive with the cameras at all. cassidy and i had a funny story. the day before we were driving from los angeles up to santa barbara. car to car to car to car traffic as usual. and next to us was this semi truck of kim kardashian s fragrance. we had to follow it to the next the next light, for 2 1/2 hours. and you smell nice. and i smell like her. i m so glad you brought that up. what was in goody bag? these are cute. made special for us. opi. welcome kim to the family. i think he s the one. oh, gosh, glowing to the chapel. everything was customized. beautiful stuff. every guest also got a little gift bag when they were leaving, other things including a free pair of shoes which i thought that was pretty cool. not that you walked out with shoes but a gift certificate you could redeem. a scented candle, as well. when you took a present to a wedding, now you get presents when you go. it s great. how deeply spiritual the actual ceremony was. it was performed by kris humphre humphreys family pastor. very devout christian family. he talked about all the words in the bible for love. it was almost a little like you learned something from it. that we only have one word for love in the english language and it s not enough because there are so many different kinds of love. sounds like it was a beautiful event. she wore three magnificent dresses. and she couldn t dance in any of them. after all those dancing with the stars lessons, too, that apparently she took. oh, well. sounds like it was a great weekend. kathie lee and ken baker, thank you for sharing it with us. we should remind everybody, calm more details tonight on e news at 7:30 and 11:30. if you didn t get enough. coming up next, switching gears. the most effective ways to discipline your children, right after this. sweetie i think you need a little extra fiber in your diet. carol. fiber makes me sad. oh common. and how can you talk to me about fiber while you are eating a candy bar? 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we want to raise well adjusted children who are happy and there might be different strategies to go about doing that. that s okay. okay. you can actually come up with tips for us, consistent discipline plans for parents. the first point is to discuss the discipline up front. how are you going to handle certain situations and scenarios. that may change over time because parenting is a growing process. and as your child gets over, how you handle certain scenarios will change. if you re on the same page with your partner, it really helps to have a plan in place. all right. the next thing you suggest is trying the mildest interventions first. yes. so a few things like the two-minute time-out, right? or the verbal. i don t want you hitting sam anymore. and if they still continue to do that, well then you re going to have to go to your room for a five-minute time-out. see if those interventions work first. they might work. and then you don t have to go to spanking, which is the last resort. and if they don t work, just keep going? right. i mean, really, you are training your child to live in the outside world. and that s what really disciplining is all about. and if you as a parent, the person who loves your child the most, isn t willing to show that to your child, you don t want it coming from the outside world. and yet, also important to put on a united front, right? yeah. everyone in your circle involves in raise that child. you can xwree to disagree but do it privately. and also you don t want to make it for your child s good cop/bad cop where it s not about the point but who can i get away with the most? regardless of how you feel privately, say, listen, your father and i want what s best for you and we re both in agreement about this. but there are lots of different caretakers and baby sitters and grandparents. so you just want to discuss what the general approach is. and if one parent does find it s a situation where they re often the good cop, it s important to reverse the roles every now and again, right? yeah. and if basically you re the good guy, support the person who is stricter because they re probably helping you out in the long run. and you guys have to be on the same page for your child. the child has to know both my parents have expectations of me to behave a certain way. right. they both have each other s back. that s good for a child. the grandparent and the na y nanny. everybody is on the same page. people have questions. there are articles there at care.com and strategies. great. thank you so much. thank you. coming up next, surf and turf meets old world italian. but first, this is today on nbc. if you can t tell by the music, this is step-by-step guide is surf and turf. the executive chef at the new york restaurant known for its fresh ingredients and delicious food. roberto, good morning. we ve got them all. you ve got three restaurants, right? yes. i know you came from italy when you were a teenager. did you always want to own a restaurant? yes, i was part of 11 kids. that s what we did. our father was cooking what we re going to eat tomorrow. always planning when you have 11 kids. what are you going to make today? very simple. juicy steak with any type of blue cheese. you start by putting this steak into the flour? should i do it? yes. what should i do, just lay it right in here? yes. how hard should i press? down the other side. and flip it over. and then what? help me. okay. put this guy there? okay. oh, my gosh, the pressure. what do you have in this pan? garlic and oil, chili pepper, we re going put a little blue cheese. you already had some alreadying coalready in cooking in there. chili pepper and that. okay. how long do we keep it there? i think about the heat should be i want to cook on high. really high. you put a whole beer in there? we re going to put the beer inside. that s how we re going to do it. not that much. we re going to put a beer? yeah. this should take about four minutes to make. does it taste like beer? you won t taste the beer because you have in the top, oil, chili pepper, blue cheese. you won t really taste it. it s a lot different flavor. let s meredith vieira on. we ve got to get to that, too. that s the finished product? that s the finished product. how are we making the past a? well, you want to put this in before we make the pasta? okay sure. let s put it on there and just look at it. we don t have that much time. i just got to get to the pasta. okay. so butternut squaish sh is what start with. butternut squash, pasta, simple. okay. okay. butternut squash. we got the butternut squash. the oil. and then we re going through the pas pasta. could you use any squash or does it have to be butternut? any squash. i like to use yellow squash. how do you cook your pasta? i like to cook my pasta? okay. so you talk that up first and then you add the penne. and then we add the penne. why do you use one pasta over the other? you choose penne for this recipe why? every pasta lets you stay with this recipe because cook pasta and the flavor right inside the pasta. it s such a nice taste. i know you put the past a water instead of stock in there, right? yeah. we have so much happening with butternut squash. bonjour. bonjour. natalie over here. going to put a little beer in there. a little beer. a little beer. okay. and then so you just mix it all up? mix it all up. and nice big pasta bowl. put it in the pasta bowl right here. is this the tasting time, roberto? tasting. okay. thank you so much, roberto. great to have you here. coming up next, kathie lee go makeup free. we ll see that. that s coming up, after your local news and weather. 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