‘Existing as a queer South Asian is draining’: How LGBTQ+ groups hope to combat stigma and exclusion A few activists are attempting to help families overcome the specific challenges of being LGBTQ+ in the South Asian diaspora. Abhishek Chinnappa/Reuters When Gurleen Kaur came out as queer to her friends three years ago, she was all too familiar with her family’s expectations – that she marry a man someday. That was still a possibility for the 27-year-old, which would likely then lead to the full-package large celebration with all her friends and family present. But Kaur also knew she would likely not get any of that fanfare if she married a woman.