. Daniel Lavery: in terms of “We don’t know what to do” I think the answer is pretty straightforward right now which is, Don’t call your son! He has asked you not to call him you can feel free to use some of the time you used to spend calling him in considering what you might want from your relationship in the future, but you can also just spend that time hanging out take more walks, take up papier-mâché, anything you want Lisa McIntire: maybe spend some time working through your anger and contempt and entitlement! It really struck me how angry the letter writer is