will speak because you are two of sadly -- thankfully it's a rare club, a sad part to be a part of, american correspondents wounded in the war zone. what would you tell him? >> some of ben's good friends have already reached out, people who have worked with him for years and they heard your podcast where we talked about this and they're just trying to get him advice when he and his family are ready for it. so they're already working on having a network to support ben through his recovery. one of the main things i tell him is please do not blame yourself for pierre and sascha being lost. i know initially you will because that's one of the ways that you take back control of this awful thing that happens. one of the steps in grief is blame and if you are the survivor it becomes self-blame and survivor's built is a horrible thing, but as abc's bob