social situations? >> yeah, don't push it. i think a lot of parents think they want to do soccer again and play dates and slumber parties and movie dates. don't push it. you normalize the sense that even the things that you want to do are maybe a little bit anxiety provoking and it is okay to take it slow or it is okay to not immediately hit the fast forward button and get to where we were pre-pandemic. because i'm seeing that a lot with various kids and teens, that they're not quite ready to get back to where they were and if they did it actually caused more anxiety and they want it per se but then they think something is wrong because it feels anxiety provoking to do the things that they used to. we have to let them choose their own pace. >> one thing i say to my kids and other members of my family, give yourself some grace if you don't do well on a test or you have a little temper tantrum or you're not feeling well or -- this is been an awful year. a year and a half.