do to fix yourself. for me as a teenage girl it was cosmo and 17. how different is instagram? >> well, what you're talking about is a matter of scale here. it's natural for all of us to compare ourselves to other people, but typically we're comparing ourselves to our siblings, classmates, people living in our neighborhood, or when i was growing up, yes, you know, "cosmo" or "17" magazine. there was a more limited number of comparison that was happening, but on instagram, what happens is that we're comparing ourselves with millions of people all over the world and many of these images are photo shopped, the stories around them are curated, so what ends up happening is a sense of learned helplessness like i will never be able to measure up to these incredible people that are in the world and so instead of, you know, feeling like oh, okay i'm good at this or that, young girls and all people frankly, including adults, end up feeling