for validating decal? you never get to eat whatever you like for the rest of your life. congratulations. that's why people develop eating disorders. that's the wrong way of thinking about things. there are four claims and goals. >> give me time. >> you're, your spiritual or philosophical life. go deeper. >> love it. >> number two, built over the ship with their family, the relationships that you did not choose. and so many cases, real friends, you and i talked about this before, we were friends, and not the old friends. deep in your friendship. faith, family, friends and work, those are the big four. >> wow, i would think about my resolution this year. what happens to the human psyche when those resolutions fell, because so many -- >> what happens is that we feel worse about ourselves. most people are actually not afraid of failure. they are afraid of their feelings if they fail. i have good students. you know my students, there's some at the best. harvard business school, boy, are they good. but they're really afraid of failing. they have failed before. but they're not afraid of failing, there are afraid of how they feel about themselves if they do fail. they're afraid of their own feelings. this is the key way to better yourself, to learn how to not be afraid of your feelings. do i have a resolution? my resolution this year is to go much deeper into faith.